It is absolutely up to you what you tell people and I really don't see what your husband's issue is. You did absolutely nothing wrong here. Plus, this is not a topic on which he gets a say. It is your illness and your decision what you want people to know.

You should tell people whatever you choose to and you would be perfectly within your rights to tell your husband that he has absolutely no right to be trying to dictate what you tell people and he needs to concentrate on supporting your decisions instead of trying to impose his own views, but since he is your husband, you may want to be kinder than that and sugarcoat things for him a little, which is fine too, if it's what you want. I would be inclined to tell him off over the "stop being morbid" thing. He has absolutely no right to tell you how to react.

I do think cancer can be stressful for family members too and sometimes that means they act out and get angry and even though, of course, they shouldn't be getting angry with the person who actually has cancer, it's not always easy to control one's emotions at a stressful time. Hopefully, if he is a decent person, he will realise fairly quickly that he was being ridiculous and apologise to you. It sounds like maybe he is struggling to deal with your diagnosis and doesn't want reminders of it, but that should not mean he can dictate how you deal with it.

Make your decisions based on what you are comfortable with. If he is a decent person, he will understand that you are the one who should be deciding here; this is your diagnosis and you are the one who chooses who to tell.

Hi sausage (not sure about name)now if you were a man i would understand it.

I think your husband is maybe worried about you and you telling others just hits a sore point that he can't do much to help you. 

Remember you haven't done anything wrong, so just do what you want, remember he will be really worried about you and not sure how to help or react so sometimes snaps.

Alot of people have same problem and react same patient or relative. 

Billy 

Thanks MargaretMary and Billy for your response and your support which is appreciated.

PS Billy I'm not a man!

I chose the name sausage as it's a pet name within our family.

such as "Hello sausage!"

Hi again sausage, i realised you were female where your c is, very few men have cancer there although it is possible and some have husbands as well. 

Sorry im still thinking about it with a big smile on my face. 

This forum is very good to rant and just talk about things as you've probably noticed. 

Billy 

I'm glad I've made someone smile today

Guess what i had for breakfast. 

Billy 

I don't see your husbands problem here. Your illness, your body, your choice etc. Its not something I've ever broadcasted but when someone I haven't seen for a while says "ay up how you doing" I always ask what they know. Word of mouth gets around. We all deal differently. Telling someone might mean they have experienced it themselves in their family and can offer help. Maybe your husband is scared? Ask him why he's miffed. My wife is my rock through this though she's probably sick of me to be honest. Haha

Hi,

im sorry you are in this situation. I think you should tell who you want or not it's your body and it's happened to you. I don't truly think anyone really understands unless they are going through it. You've got cancer your not being morbid it's a shock and a lonely place to be with your inner thoughts. I have recently been diagnosed with recurrent bowel cancer after remission of 10 years and it's stage 4 so I know what your going through. Sending virtual hug.