Good morning Kay and welcome to the Cancer Chat community.

I noticed you're starting your chemo today so I just wanted to wish you good luck and let you know we'll be thinking of you.

We have some information about chemotherapy as well as the possible side effects that may occur on our website but hopefully some of our members will share their experiences of chemo and offer their tips and advice to you soon.

If you'd like to have a chat with one of our cancer nurses about your diagnosis or treatment you can get in touch with them on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m.

We're here for you Kay and sending our support your way.

Kind regards,

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi  welcome to the forum the club nobody wants to join.

If you have a look at ( [@mare]‍ ) she had similar husband problem to you , she has since found a good good man and getting married soon, hopefully she'll get in touch but she's busy sorting out the wedding plans.

Good luck with chemo sessions.

Billy

Hi Marlyn,

Thankyou for responding. My appointment is at 3pm. 
no we were not on the cards lol he left when I showed him the size of the lump. We had just got back from 3 weeks in Tenerife and then a week after arriving back I found the lump. 
we thought it was a cyst first but then it was so big. When 2nd doctor mentioned concern I think he realised he couldn't deal with it and left. 
I am trying my damn hardest not to think about what he's done and fight this for myself and the children. 
have you completed all your Chemo? 

Hi Billy 

thanks for responding. That's so refreshing to hear that she has moved on. Big congratulations to her if she gets a chance to see this post. 

Well what a shock that must have been! What happened to in sickness and in health! Try and put him out of your mind for now, you have much bigger things to deal with, thank goodness you have a lovely supportive family...

yep, I'm all done now, two years clear...so you see ..there is light at the end of the tunnel. All I will say is don't look too far ahead, take each day as it comes. I found chemo hard but doable, a friend of mine sailed through it! After each cycle she was famished so they would stop and go to Burger King on the way home, she even managed to carry on with work throughout. 
 

The first five days after chemo were the hardest for me, but on the sixth day I'd be ready to do my rounds in the care home I managed...turban firmly on head...eyebrows pencilled in and Lippy on....ready to do battle...

You will soon have a pattern and the first cycle is the worst as you don't know what to expect...but I promise you, you will be fine....

check in when you feel up to it ️

Hi KayK87,

I just wanted to say I hope you got on ok with your first round of Chemo xx I'm waiting for biopsy results on a large lump which has appeared in a matter of 3 weeks. They have said it's more likely something than nothing. I'm in limbo at the moment I just want to find out what I need to do & do it! Anyway good luck & lots of love xx

Helloo Kay, Billy, Marlyn and Charl.

Please excuse that I missed your post Kay, but I was busy getting married! Yes Billy I have managed to change my avatar to a wedding picture :grin: I might change it more often as that was easy :laugh:

Kay, everything you say resonates with me, and of course you will be feeling so much more than a little helpless! It would be an entirely normal feeling under the circumstances wouldn't it? I felt the same.

And Charl, that feeling of limbo is so awful isn't it, but you'll get through it. I used to try some distraction, like a day out or something like a treat. It was a fine line (still is) between me having constructive thoughts which were helpful to me and overthinking to the point of ruminating and stewing on things which made me feel so bad.

Once I was on a sensible effective treatment plan though I began to feel less helpless again and more in charge. I should imagine you might feel the same once things begin working for you and you know more?

I am always happy to chat. Some things I tend to discuss privately, like about my feelings after my husband left, and gosh it was hard at the time for us all. I got through it all though, and I learnt loads of different ways to keep myself going. Thank you to Billy for inviting me into this conversation :happy:

Do let us know how you get on. I will check my account on here more often now that things have calmed down after the wedding.

Love and best wishes to you all,

Mary

xxx

Hey [@KayK87]‍ 

i hope your first chemo went ok. I'm so sorry that your husband has left perhaps maybe he's just scared and is dealing with it badly. I am glad you have a helpful family around you it makes a massive difference. I don't know if you said what treatment you are having but I had EC x 4 cycles and I am now on taxol + phesgo. 
 

The EC was harder then the taxol is now but it was totally doable. And like someone else I come home and just want to eat it must be all the steroids. 
 

good luck I hope you sail through this. Rest and keep yourself hydrated xx