How do we all cope?

Hi

I would just like to introduce myself as I am new to this site (Didn't think I would ever become a member). I lost my fiance John 4 weeks ago today to a metastatic melanoma. He was diagnosed with skin cancer 18 months ago and he was in remission for a while. Unfortunately a secondary cancer had got back in and it spread to his brain. No one knew that he had this until the day that he passed away. John only suffered with headaches two weeks prior so it wasn't a major cause for concern.

I am struggling at the moment to carry on and I just wish that I could join him very selfish of me I know because I have a 4yr old son tha depends on me.

I just want to know if anyone has experienced/going through the same as me?..............

  • Hi Brian

    Thank you very much, that really means a lot to me. It was such an emotional but highly enjoyable day. All the ladies were there for the same thing and it was a good atmosphere.

    I will send the money off as soon as I get it and then it will definitely go towards finding a cure.

    Best wishes

    Sarah 

  • Hi Beaker

    It's lovely to hear from you. Thank you very much for your kind words and I am sorry that you are having to go through this as well. Your husband is very young to be going through this terrible illness. I didn't have the chance to care for John as he wasn't diagnosed with anything until it was too late. It was all so sudden so no one was prepared for it. He did have skin cancer for about 18 months and we thought that he was ok but unfortunately the cancer got back in and it spread to his brain where the doctor found 3 tumours.

    All I can say is spend as much time together as you can, hold him, love him, hug him and tell him that you love him loads. I am keeping myself busy otherwise I would go insane, my little boy helps a lot and takes my mind off it.

    Please keep in touch

    Best wishes

    Sarah xxxxxx

  • Hi Sarah

    Huge congrats on completing the Race for Life. A real achievement for such a worthy cause and in memory of your lost love.. Well done on what must have been a hugely emotional day.Jules

  • Hi Jules

    Thank you very much, very emotional but enjoyable!! I would like to do some more races but the local ones have finished now. I am going to do loads more next year and try to build my fitness up and run/jog them all!!!! An easy promise to make but I am definitely going to do this for John and for everyone who is battling this awful illness.

    I have raised about £100.00 at work and that is a fantastic amount. I am also going to try and get eberyone at work incvolbed in it next year.

    I hope you, your husband, your mum and your daughter are ok? 

    Take care

    Sarah xx

  • Hi Beaker

    I hope Sarah's doesn't mind me intruding on her post but I just read about your husband at the age of 28 having incurable bowel cancer.

    They use to say cancer was to do with age from what I have saw on these forums there is no truth in this whatsoever.

    I just want to say you and your husband are in my thoughts and prayers and remember enjoy every day you have with him because cancer holds no prisoners.

    I love your username it is my favourite character from the Muppet Show.

    Take care Beaker

    Mickied

  • Hi

    Just received some news that my Dad may have a tumour inside his mouth. He went to the Dentist yesterday to rule out gum disease etc and the Dentist couldn't find anything but he did say he was referring him to the hospital asap as he thinks it could be a tumour.

    I am very worried now as I don't want to hear any more bad news. His mouth is numb like he has had an injection and he has has this for a few days.

    Can anyone help?

    Thanks

    Sarah 

  • Hi Sarah

    Oh my love you dont deserve this at all,  it but please wait until he has been to the hospital, I know this is easier said than done but it may be something different,   Try and be strong over the next few days my love I know it's a big ask but this is what life throws at you.  Think of your holiday and give your Rhys a big kiss from me.

    Thinking of you

    Big hugs

    Beryl xxx

  • Hi mickied. thanks for your kind thoughts. my hubby isn't doing too well. i want to cherish every moment but it is hard seeing him suffer so. i am hugging him as much as he can stand!xxx

  • Hi,

    Very sorry to hear that you have these additional worries about your dear Dad. Im sorry i can't offer any insight to this problem but just wanted to send my kind thoughts to you and your family.xxx

  • My thoughts are with you Beaker for your husband and family. BillX