Terminal liver cancer

My husband has just been diagnosed with Terminal liver cancer. His kids are taking over mine and his life saying I should now be with him 24/7 as he may die any minute. I'm not allowed to go out for a hour or two, go to the shops meet with friends etc. it is causing so much anger and upset between us all. Am I in the wrong to just want a hour on my own?

  • Hi Willvio

    You absolutely need to get out for a break every day. Your husbands children can sit with him for a couple of hours while you go out. They can always phone you if need be. Explain to them you really need that you time to recharge and that if you break down and cannot look after him it will become their full time responsibility. Hope you can resolve this amicably.

    Ed

  • Hi Willvio2224  I am sorry to hear about your husband's diagnosis.  I have stage 4 cancer which is treatable not curable and having palliative treatment.  I would like to say that you are certainly not wrong in wanting your own time.  In fact it is very important that you have time to yourself.  I think his kids are being unreasonable and I hope you don't mind me saying that they seem to be shifting the responsibility solely to you which is not fair.  You cannot be with someone 24/7 without it affecting your mental health.  You certainly need time to destress and have you time.  I am looking it from the opposite way as you.  I would never want my husband to just have no life other than being with me.  I encourage him to go out and do his own things sometimes as it is important to get away and leave the cancer behind even if it is for an hour or two.  So you are not wrong.  Sorry for the long ramble.

    Lee x