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Having a hard time

Hayleyrm2
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Hello to all

I am 52 years old, 3 years into a new relationship, very happy, planning to do lots of things. loving my jobs, everything going really well until I was diagnosed with Breast Cancer earlier this year.

I have already undergone surgery (Diep flap breast reconstruction and axillary clearance), 8 weeks post op. 

I am glad to this day that from diagnosis, biopsies and scans to surgery that things have moved as quickly as possible, but now i am an emotional wreck and am finding every day mentally hard.

Everyone around me says how strong i am and that i got this, how well i have recovered, but inside i am not coping. I know that writing things down is a good way of outing my thoughts and feelings, so here i am!

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    Hi there , first of all what you are feeling is absolutely normal . I describe having breast cancer as a rollercoaster ride . First you’re faced with a life changing illness   Then you have to cope with all the barrage of information , tests, then surgery / body image / emotions . If you’ve been put on hormones they have side effects too . I would advise you to speak to your Gp and explain how you are feeling, also you can call Maggie’s or any of the helplines for a chat Having a DIEP is major surgery and takes some getting over, so no wonder you are feeling like this . Please be kind to yourself , and I hope you feel better soon. X

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    Hi Hayley 

    I am one year on diagnosis july 22 breast cancer be assured you will soon get back to normal it don’t take long it’s normal how you feel now x 

    hood luck love Lara xxx

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    Hello Lara.  Thank you for responding.  Congratulations on your 1 year, it is reassuring to know that how i feel is normal.  Sometimes when you become overwhelmed with emotion you begin to think you have lost the plot and have no grip on things.   Being isolated at home by yourself does not help.  I have had a word with myself and am going to find something every day to do.  I have had some good news regarding my future treatment, i do not need to have Chemotherapy.  I am just waiting for a Radiotherapy appointment and yesterday began taking tamoxifen. I will wait to see how that goes and hopefully begin to see that light of life again. xxx

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    Hello Lara.  Thank you for responding.  Congratulations on your 1 year, it is reassuring to know that how i feel is normal.  Sometimes when you become overwhelmed with emotion you begin to think you have lost the plot and have no grip on things.   Being isolated at home by yourself does not help.  I have had a word with myself and am going to find something every day to do.  I have had some good news regarding my future treatment, i do not need to have Chemotherapy.  I am just waiting for a Radiotherapy appointment and yesterday began taking tamoxifen. I will wait to see how that goes and hopefully begin to see that light of life again. xxx

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