First Christmas without my dad

My dad died of cancer in September of this year, I feel like I just want to hide away and come out in the new year. I am really struggling, I fee; really low and have little or no interest in celebrating Xmas this year. Some friends or colleagues cant seem to understand why i dont want to put a tree up, or to get excited about everything.

I saw ny dad the day he died, my mu didnt realsie he had died she thought he was sleeping or had lapsed into a coma, but the minute i touched him i knew.

I feel so alone and also so tired all the time, I have a friend whom i thought was a good supportive friend but she has changed jobs and i dont hear fron her so much, its like out of sight out of mind. Yesterday was the 3 month ago that he died. I feel lost i'm going through stuff and i want his advice but i cant have it. 

I have an epmtyness in my chest and it hurts 

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  • Hello Nats54 and welcome to Cancer Chat, although I'm sorry to read about the reason that brings you here.

    It's very normal not to feel festive when someone we loved so dearly was taken away from us, so try to take one step at a time and give yourself the space to go through all the emotions you need to while grieving.

    I hope that some of our members who are also facing Christmas without a loved one will post to share their experiences. The other thing I wanted to mention is this article from Cruse about coping with grief at Christmas, I hope this can help a little.

    Thinking of you at this difficult time. 

    Best wishes, 

    Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator

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  • Hello Nats54 and welcome to Cancer Chat, although I'm sorry to read about the reason that brings you here.

    It's very normal not to feel festive when someone we loved so dearly was taken away from us, so try to take one step at a time and give yourself the space to go through all the emotions you need to while grieving.

    I hope that some of our members who are also facing Christmas without a loved one will post to share their experiences. The other thing I wanted to mention is this article from Cruse about coping with grief at Christmas, I hope this can help a little.

    Thinking of you at this difficult time. 

    Best wishes, 

    Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator

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