My dad is dying on ventilator as I speak

I found out my dad had cancer around 2 weeks ago he is now on his death bed they said he may not make it through the night his organs are shutting down !I looked at him I can't see his veins and his hands are floppy I know he's already gone they said it's possible he will come back but they can't promise to me he looks like he's already dead Im his first child and he has a young son dad is 63 ive never really dealt with death before I just need some comfort here everyone is upset and I upset my son as I didn't tell him about the cancer till now I feel hopeless 

  • Dear Afrohair 91, I wish you peace, My Mother went  quickly within hours, be comforted that  You Dad is leaving this place  surrounded  by love and members of his family, If it helps, We were allowed into hospital to say good bye, Mom  was very dozy from drugs as they had ''made her comfortable'' but she was already yellow and juandiced. she suddenly came awake and said ''why has anybody been to see me for ages ?  My brother and I were able to get her to speak on the phone to say goodbye, then she dosed off again. what we did was phone up everybody  and asked them  to tell her how much they loved her  and wish her a happy journey to heaven ,I held the phone next to her, I have absolutely no idea  how much she heard, we played her favourite music on the phone . many hours later , we wanted to go and have some rest but felt guilty  at leaving her in case she died on her own- The nurses said, she isnt on her own, we are here with her. That was lovely,   about 5 hours later she died.  she was inconcious  just after she told us all off for not visiting her during covid .  Big Hugs  Afrohair 91, sending hig hugs your way,xxx

  • I'm so sorry, I know exactly how you feel, my dad was 58. 
    Hold his hand, tell him you love him, talk to him, He can still hear you even if it doesn't seem that way. 
    Sending you so many hugs at this difficult time and the days ahead. 
    At the time I wondered if it was strange, but I took a picture of me holding dads hand while he was still here, it's a treasured photo x

  • I've stayed by his side but I haven't stayed for long as I think you can only visit until 7 I'm trying to act normal for my kids but I want to curl up and cry I have 4 young children