Hey, I'm in the same situation but I'm only 15 and she's only 51. I'm really scared now because it has spread from her lungs to her brain. I can't do anything without thinking about her, I wish I had more time with her... life is just not fair.

Hey, I'm in the same situation but I'm only 15 and she's only 51. I'm really scared now because it has spread from her lungs to her brain. I can't do anything without thinking about her, I wish I had more time with her... life is just not fair.

I'm so sorry to hear that and it's so hard going through it at this age isn't it :(( I'm turning 19 on Sunday and can't cope with the fact I'll have to get through life without her:( if you ever want to talk you can text me ️

I created an account to reply to your message because feeling scared about the future is a really horrible and lonely feeling. 
 

I'm 31 and I have delt with terminal illness twice before but am facing it again with my beloved nana who raised me, I find it difficult-I can't even imagine how much worse this would have felt at 15. I hope you don't mind this but I wanted to share a bit of advice and ideas of where to look if things get a bit overwhelming considering how recent your post is.

macmillian have a phone line 0808 808 00 00 8am-8pm seven days a week, you can get through to a nurse who can talk through anything you may be worried about. This may also help your mum if she has any worries about symptoms etc.

friends-this one is tricky, people never fully understand a situation until they have lived it, I've had some really unsympathetic friends who I've known since age 11 who previously I considered my 'best friends'. Sometimes people just don't know what to say or how to act, this doesn't mean don't talk about things (that's actually really important) but maybe also find a teacher at school who's been taught how to help people through difficult times.

the biggest thing-you don't always have to be ok. I have days where I cry in the shower (because I have little children and don't want to scare them) that's ok. I cry with friends, I cry with the nurse on the helpline. Some days I'm genuinely okay, and this is fine too.

I hope you don't find this too much but if my eldest posted on this (he's two years younger) I would like someone to reach out to him too.

virtual hugs...

Hello, it has been a while.... I recently turned 18, the same age you were when you replied to my message. My mum passed away a few months after I sent that message in August 2021 and my life has been a blur ever since. I'm going to university this year and I hate that fact that life is moving on so fast with the only person I ever cared about frozen in the past.

I hope you are doing okay and I'm thinking about you. 

Thank you for your reply :) My mum sadly passed away in August 2021 a few months after I left this message. I am now 18. I have been physically and psychology aching for 3 years and still can't cope with this magnitude of grief. Exams are not helping this as I have my A-levels in a few weeks. Even when I did my GCSEs a few months after she died I didn't even qualify for consideration as only 3 month grieving time frame is permitted - which I find ridiculous. I have had bereavement counselling at school but this has not been much help.

I hope you are doing okay.