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Struggling with my dads slow death (death rattle)

Emeliekate
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Hi all,

my poor dad is slipping away and it isn't a fast and peaceful process.

2 weeks ago he came home out of the hospice and has been in bed since. He lost consciousness 4 days ago and has drunk anything since then. 48 hours ago the death rattle started and it is just horrific to listen to. I feel like this is new going to end, most people slip away quicker when the death rattle starts I believe but he is just carrying on and it is so painful to watch. 
he is only 62 and has bones metastasis which spread from his liver.

does anyone have any experience of how long he can go on breathing like this?

 

my heart is breaking 

 

thank you

 

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    Hi I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad. No one prepares you for watching your loved ones come to the end of their life. My Mum died on 6th February. Mum went in hospital on 20th January. We were told she had secondary liver cancer. Mum fell while in hospital and had a bleed on the brain she then caught Covid 19 and died saturday night. Mum had the death rattle when we arrived on saturday afternoon and died about 5 hours later. It was heartbreaking to watch. Stay strong. You aren't alone. 

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    Hi I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad. No one prepares you for watching your loved ones come to the end of their life. My Mum died on 6th February. Mum went in hospital on 20th January. We were told she had secondary liver cancer. Mum fell while in hospital and had a bleed on the brain she then caught Covid 19 and died saturday night. Mum had the death rattle when we arrived on saturday afternoon and died about 5 hours later. It was heartbreaking to watch. Stay strong. You aren't alone. 

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