Mum dying in late 50’s

Hi,

My mum is dying from bowel cancer that has spread to her liver. She most likely only has days left. I'm really struggling to cope with this news. I have never suffered from anxiety but I have recently begun having what I think are panic attacks- struggling to breathe, feeling sick etc. 
On top of this, my mum has become  confused which is very difficult to watch. She was an extremely intelligent  and independent woman having worked in business her entire life.

We are a very close family- just me, my older sibling, my dad and mum. My mum was glue that held us together and also organised birthdays, Christmas and family gatherings. I'm really worried what will happen to us when she is no longer here. 
I am only 25 and only have a few close friends (none of which have had any similar experience). I'm not close to my extended family. Usually the one to comfort me in difficult situations would be my mum and obviously now  she can't. I feel very alone and am wondering if there is anyone here who is of similar age who could offer support/advice? 
 

Thank you 

Parents
  • Hi, 

    I am so sorry to hear of your situation, I can completely empathise. I have found myself in an very similar situation and as a family we are managing end of life stage. 
     

    Not sure about you but with it also being Christmas things seem even more emotional and unfair. 
     

    I am really keen to create some positive support network for people our age, I have found some great Instagram accounts for grief and bereavement which when I feel able too I spend time reading. I am hoping I am able to create something similar to help myself and others. 

    I sometimes feel so alone in this big "why is?" World but I would be really keen to support someone who genuinely understands our situation. 
     

    Sending you and your family all the best, 

    T x 

     

Reply
  • Hi, 

    I am so sorry to hear of your situation, I can completely empathise. I have found myself in an very similar situation and as a family we are managing end of life stage. 
     

    Not sure about you but with it also being Christmas things seem even more emotional and unfair. 
     

    I am really keen to create some positive support network for people our age, I have found some great Instagram accounts for grief and bereavement which when I feel able too I spend time reading. I am hoping I am able to create something similar to help myself and others. 

    I sometimes feel so alone in this big "why is?" World but I would be really keen to support someone who genuinely understands our situation. 
     

    Sending you and your family all the best, 

    T x 

     

Children
  • Hi T,

    My mum passed away on the 6th of December. The last few weeks have been extremely difficult. 
     

    I'd definitely be interested in some kind of group. I am in Ireland so it is particularly hard to find support groups with young people in their twenties. 
     

    If you want help setting up the group, please let me know. Would love to be involved!