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Mum dying in late 50’s

RMarieM
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Hi,

My mum is dying from bowel cancer that has spread to her liver. She most likely only has days left. I'm really struggling to cope with this news. I have never suffered from anxiety but I have recently begun having what I think are panic attacks- struggling to breathe, feeling sick etc. 
On top of this, my mum has become  confused which is very difficult to watch. She was an extremely intelligent  and independent woman having worked in business her entire life.

We are a very close family- just me, my older sibling, my dad and mum. My mum was glue that held us together and also organised birthdays, Christmas and family gatherings. I'm really worried what will happen to us when she is no longer here. 
I am only 25 and only have a few close friends (none of which have had any similar experience). I'm not close to my extended family. Usually the one to comfort me in difficult situations would be my mum and obviously now  she can't. I feel very alone and am wondering if there is anyone here who is of similar age who could offer support/advice? 
 

Thank you 

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    Hi there,

    im so sorry to hear your news. I sadly lost my amazing dad 7 weeks ago and he was only 58. We had a very short battle with cancer. My dad was the same and became confused - something I found hard to deal with as felt he lost his identity and I lost my dad before he passed away. I found it comforting to talk to him like normal through and even when he couldn't understand due to confusion I just chatted nonsense which seemed to work for us. 

    Since my dad passed away I have suffered from anxiety and have times when I can't leave the house or struggle to walk around the shop without freaking out. I would say from talking to people that this is really normal. Just take your time, do things such as taking time out, listening to music or going for a short walk to get some air. Try and talk to people too - more than welcome to message me. I found doing these things really helped me through and still do.

    Remember you are not alone, you are doing so so well and being a young person myself I understand how losing a parent at this age is just so hard.

    Your doing an amazing job.

     

    take care xx

     

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    Hi there,

    im so sorry to hear your news. I sadly lost my amazing dad 7 weeks ago and he was only 58. We had a very short battle with cancer. My dad was the same and became confused - something I found hard to deal with as felt he lost his identity and I lost my dad before he passed away. I found it comforting to talk to him like normal through and even when he couldn't understand due to confusion I just chatted nonsense which seemed to work for us. 

    Since my dad passed away I have suffered from anxiety and have times when I can't leave the house or struggle to walk around the shop without freaking out. I would say from talking to people that this is really normal. Just take your time, do things such as taking time out, listening to music or going for a short walk to get some air. Try and talk to people too - more than welcome to message me. I found doing these things really helped me through and still do.

    Remember you are not alone, you are doing so so well and being a young person myself I understand how losing a parent at this age is just so hard.

    Your doing an amazing job.

     

    take care xx

     

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