Good Evening 

I came on here seeking some reassurance, advice, hope anything positive really. 

My Mam is 56 she also had bladder cancer back in January had her bladder removes along with some other organs.. In march she was given the all clear life was good. 

5 weeks ago we got a devastating blow it had came back to her pelvis it's now spreading throughout her body.

For weeks she's been told she could have Chemo then an infection occurs and its a hospital stay, she's so poorly, very weak and has immense pain at times its so cruel. 

Today the consultant mentioned palliative chemotherapy.. I'm searching will it help her? Will it make her worse?

Sending positivity and love to all who are suffering and going through this

Steph x

Hi there,

Im sorry to hear that the cancer has come back for your mum. Unfortunately this sometimes happens even with ongoing treatment and frequent investigations.

By what you have mentioned it seems that the doctors are taking a pallative approach. This means that they are trying to prolong your mothers life as well as trying to improve her quality of life. Often this means that the intention to cure is no longer something they feel might be achievable.  However that said, there is always hope and people do benefit for long periods of time on pallative treatment. obviously the pros and cons of further treatment is down to the individual. 

I wish yourself and your mother all the best and im thinking of you during this difficult period. 

Best wishes 

Jamal 

Early stage bladder cancer 

Diagnosed on April 2019. Age 29. 

Hi Jamal, Although, your response was not to my original post, I noticed your diagnosis, listed at the bottom of the page. I wish you well in your fight and hope that your recovery is full and speedy. Best wishes x

Hi Jamal, Although, your response was not to my original post, I noticed your diagnosis, listed at the bottom of the page. I wish you well in your fight and hope that your recovery is full and speedy. Best wishes x

My wife is 55 and has ms she was diagnosed with grade 3 bladder cancer 8 weeks later after radical surgery full hysterectomy and bladder removal we're told it was squamous cancer grade 3 stage 4 and had spread to the lymph nodes which they couldn't remove! We're waiting to meet the oncologist and start chemotherapy but not sure where we go from here!

Hi Karis07

I'm sorry to hear about your wife. I hope they succeed with the chemo treatment for her full recovery. 
None of us know what will happen next during these journeys.  My advise (for what it's worth)  is live one day at a time and try to find something to laugh about with your wife whenever the opportunity arises. 
I wish you both support and warmth on the roller coaster of a journey you find yourself in...

Best wishes