Hi there - I can't truly imagine how hard this is for you &how much you want your dad to be free of pain. It's so difficult to give advice but I've been trying to think what I would do & I would certainly ring your dad's GP. If necessary I would make a fuss & say that there really isn't any need for your dad to be in pain. Perhaps you could also ring the hospice at least for a bit of advice. I would hope that your dad's GP would organise good pain relief.

My mother died a little under 2 years ago & she was in a nursing home (she was 89). The GP had said she could have pain relief whenever she needed it but the staff were reluctant to give it to her as much as she needed it (she also had cancer). I had to insist on it & maybe you need to do that too.

Whatever you do tho' don't ignore it. Trust your instincts & demand a bit of help - you & your dad should have it. Do let us know how you get on. All the best sweetie I'll think of you. x

Thank you so much for your advice.

I will try to be more assertive. It’s so hard to know how much to step in and be assertive with the people who deal with this situation as a job.... I will ask more questions  of the nurse and hospice. 

Thank you. X

Thank you so much for your advice.

I will try to be more assertive. It’s so hard to know how much to step in and be assertive with the people who deal with this situation as a job.... I will ask more questions  of the nurse and hospice. 

Thank you. X