Hi Daddiesgirl,

Both of them were relatively young when they passed. It must have been an awful shock for your poor dad to find your step-mum unexpectedly.

I am glad that you have a good canvas of them both, which you can talk to. I know this sounds, like a daft thing to do, but I have found great solace in talking to my mum over the years. We got some professional pictures taken of the entire family at the time of my parent-in-law's 60th wedding anniversary. In these my mum has a wry smile on her face, as if she was challenging me to do something. Throughout the years, I have done my best to make her proud and, I feel when she looks like this there is a look of pride in her face.

We are facing the same situation with my father-in-law's estate. One thing that this has done is to give my hubby and myself a wake up call about our affairs. As soon as we've sorted the current situation out, we will have to look a little closer to home and get things in order there.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

thank you :) 

its just never ending at the moment .. going to try and take a break when its all over 

Hi Daddiesgirl,

I know that feeling!

We are hoping to get a break after all this is sorted out too.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Lovely

Sorry to hear about your mum

I lost my big sister 2 weeks ago she had cervical cancer which was in her lungs too

Everyone seems to have different experiences my beautiful big sis stopped eating and drinking 2 days before but then a couple of hours before she left us she managed water and 3/4 of a milkshake

Her chest went quite bad which they kept trying to give an injection to help but it didn't. Me her daughter and her partner stayed with her that night as her breathing was not good and it seemed to take all her strength to breathe. The minute the last of us went to sleep my big sister did too peacefully.

Thoughts are with you

Jess x

Really sorry to hear about your Mum. Thanks for the helpful information of your experience, just knowing what will happen is good so I know what to expect. 

It’s all very difficult isn’t it. Hope the service went as well as it possibly could and that you’re holding up okay.

L x 

i doubt it, ive spoke to my doctor yesterday and asked to reduce my medication which ive been on since dad got dianosed.. she said it was ok .. i just think the medication is numbing me and stopping me grieving .. only time will tell.. 

feel like i take 2 steps forward then 3 back so am getting no where and fast 

L x 

Hi Talldarkandhandsome,

I hope that your mum's funeral went well last Wednesday and, that you managed to give her a good send off.

Thinking of you and your family,
Kind regards,
Jolamine

Hi Daddiesgirl,

It's good news that you are prepared to try and reduce your medication, but don't be afraid to go back for more if you feel that you cannot manage without it.

Thinking of you and hoping that you're successful.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Jess,

Thank you for your input. I am so sorry to hear that you lost your mum at such a young age. It must have been very difficult for you to witness all these changes as she slipped away. My heart goes out to you and your dad.

I hope that you are both coping with your loss.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx