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My dad has got terminal pancreatic cancer

JLT1971
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My dad was diagnosed in February with incurable pancreatic cancer it has spread to his liver. I live near my mum & dad and my one sibling my brother lives 140 miles away. I have a really tough job 2 kids and a mega busy life and am finding it hard to support my mum. She is struggling to deal with my dads deteriorating psychological state. His symptoms are that he has got a very swollen abdomen which is uncomfortable. He is on Oxycodone slow release tablets 15mg twice a day. He is having palliative chemotherapy. My dad is 73 and my mum is 70. They have run their own business for 40 years and still work now. My husband has recently taken over the business so that is taking the strain off my parents. I am dreading what is to come, the deterioration. It's heartbreaking. What are your experiences of this dreadful disease? 

  • Offline in reply to ksg

    Gosh I'm so sorry to hear this.  It really is such a dreadful disease.  Sending you much love. 
    X

  • Offline in reply to ksg

    Hi Ksg

    I am sorry for your loss, I really am. It will all be a bit of a blur for you for a while. I know we are all different but I still cant believe my husband has gone and I am on my own now. I keep telling myself it wasnt his fault or choice and I  cry so much but take each day as it comes and do things your way not anyone elses.

    Sue x

  • Offline in reply to Sue12fm

    Hello Sue

     I hope you are doing ok and have managed to get through the bank holiday so far .
    It's hard isn't it , trying to keep going during

    holidays when it's meant to be a "  happy  

    family time "

      I keep getting lots of memories and flashbacks of recent traumas looking after my partner .

    I expect you do too  take care thinking of you 

    best wishes 

    ksg 

  • Offline in reply to Angela13

    Hi my wife has has this disease would like to know If you know what was the steroids  they put your mum on please

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    Hi I know this was posted along time ago, could I ask what alternative oil you used please, my grandmother was given 6 months also we are at 5 months now but no treatment was offered, fortunately it hasn't spread but had started to increase on size. Sorry to hear about your mum. X

  • Offline in reply to kt9

    Thank you for your post. In a bleak world it gives a small glimpse of hope x

  • Offline in reply to Sue12fm

    Hello Sue,

    Just picked up your link to many responses on pancreatic cancer.

    Like you, I also have been through a very similar experience during my wife’s 8 month ordeal of treatments, pain, and as you say awful side effects (and side effects of their treatment) for pancreatic cancer.

    It was a very traumatic and difficult time during the last several days when my wife was in hospital with complications (I did have to persevere to manage to get Ann into a Hospice which was very peaceful, but sadly only for 8 hours)

    Still wish I could have done more!.

     

  • Offline in reply to sarahkickcancer

    6 months ago I was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer that has spread to my liver, my pain is under control with morphine patches and steroids at the moment. I just feel very tired and sweat a lot! I have just had my 5 the round of chemo, apparently it has shrunk the liver tumours and kept the pancreas tumour the same so worth doing for me. I am not so worried about the time I have left (perhaps a year) as the quality. I have had a big party and am making the most of every day I feel able.  Don't pressure your loved one to keep going for longer it may not be what they want.

    p.s. I am 60 female and have a great deal of support.

  • Offline in reply to panc

    My heart goes out to you i lost my dad 12days afer his cancer confirmed,heartbreakingxx

  • Offline in reply to Family-1_60

    So sorry, no time for you to adjust. I have just had a most terrible chemo session (6) and have decided to stop. My quality of life has gone so I really would rather it was over and done with. The suffering is worse than the thought of dying, thank goodness my dear family are supporting me.

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