My dad has got terminal pancreatic cancer

My dad was diagnosed in February with incurable pancreatic cancer it has spread to his liver. I live near my mum & dad and my one sibling my brother lives 140 miles away. I have a really tough job 2 kids and a mega busy life and am finding it hard to support my mum. She is struggling to deal with my dads deteriorating psychological state. His symptoms are that he has got a very swollen abdomen which is uncomfortable. He is on Oxycodone slow release tablets 15mg twice a day. He is having palliative chemotherapy. My dad is 73 and my mum is 70. They have run their own business for 40 years and still work now. My husband has recently taken over the business so that is taking the strain off my parents. I am dreading what is to come, the deterioration. It's heartbreaking. What are your experiences of this dreadful disease? 

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  • Hi my mum was diagnosed in Dec with pancreatic cancer that had spread to her liver,she was fitted with a stent from her liver which stopped the jaundice and the acid build up. She decided not to have chemo as she wanted to  enjoy her remaining time and was advised it wouldnt really give her much more time. Since then she has lost weigh and felt in pain from trapped gas ,but since going on a small dose of steriods 4 weeks ago she has stopped losing weight and is eating normal again and has lots of energy,she doesnt have any pain. she has a very positive attitude which i believe is whats keeping her going.We have all talked openly about the cancer and her death,and she has sorted eveything out concerning life after she has gone. She is 70 and my dad has supported her with all her wishes.my brother lives far away so i try and spend as much time as i can with them .

    keep strong.

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  • Hi my mum was diagnosed in Dec with pancreatic cancer that had spread to her liver,she was fitted with a stent from her liver which stopped the jaundice and the acid build up. She decided not to have chemo as she wanted to  enjoy her remaining time and was advised it wouldnt really give her much more time. Since then she has lost weigh and felt in pain from trapped gas ,but since going on a small dose of steriods 4 weeks ago she has stopped losing weight and is eating normal again and has lots of energy,she doesnt have any pain. she has a very positive attitude which i believe is whats keeping her going.We have all talked openly about the cancer and her death,and she has sorted eveything out concerning life after she has gone. She is 70 and my dad has supported her with all her wishes.my brother lives far away so i try and spend as much time as i can with them .

    keep strong.

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