Having just read your story  it was some comfort knowing I'm not alone my husband was diagnosed November 2018 terminal prostate cancer  my biggest worry is how do I tell my children  they know he has cancer but not how serious it is again he had chemo, hormone jab, now oral tablets Again  high blood pressure  I think what I'm trying to ask when is the right time to sit them down and  talk to them I want them to have some wonderful memories before it's too late

Hi Maxine-.

It's no good putting it off, they'll know something is going on with you not telling them much.. 

I told ours as soon as we knew the details, 

I've prostate Cancer gone to lymph nodes, spine, ribs, pelvis and a lung was diagnosed Feb 2016 went on hormone therapy and cemotherapy and tablets. Just going onto stronger hormone therapy, mine was classed as palliative care so i just live with my uninvited guest. 

i was still working, had to retire to look after my disabled wife she needs 24 /7 care she has Alzheimers and parkinsons plus other problems I'm her official carer.

You both have to keep positive thoughts and actions and keep fighting. 

Good luck and best wishes for the future 

Billy 

Hi everyone, my father is at stage 4 prostate cancer, it having spread to his spine and lymph nodes. He is 85. He has been offered the chemo drug Abiraterone. He is in two minds about taking it as he doesn't want to feel sick with the remaining time he has left. If anyone has any experience to share I would be grateful.

Good luck to all and thank you for all the supportive and helpful posts.

Paul

Hi Paul,

im so sorry about your dad. My uncle was given aberatirone at one point, around the same age as your dad (few years younger) and he felt ok on it. He didn't respond, so didn't stay in it long, but I don't remember him feeling sick...he called it Rat and joked about it. 
 

my 94 year old Dad has just been diagnosed with a recurrence, 13 years after his original cancer was treated successfully with brachytherapy.  Normal PSA for 13 years, now suddenly back and in his bones already.  I'm also concerned for his quality of life - at 94 it's more important than length of time - he's been put on hormone therapy as a starter.

good luck to your dad deciding, maybe worth a try and stop if too unpleasant? 
 

claire 

Hi Paul,

im so sorry about your dad. My uncle was given aberatirone at one point, around the same age as your dad (few years younger) and he felt ok on it. He didn't respond, so didn't stay in it long, but I don't remember him feeling sick...he called it Rat and joked about it. 
 

my 94 year old Dad has just been diagnosed with a recurrence, 13 years after his original cancer was treated successfully with brachytherapy.  Normal PSA for 13 years, now suddenly back and in his bones already.  I'm also concerned for his quality of life - at 94 it's more important than length of time - he's been put on hormone therapy as a starter.

good luck to your dad deciding, maybe worth a try and stop if too unpleasant? 
 

claire 

Thank you for the reply. My Dad moved onto Abiraterone and it has worked well for him so far. He is on month 2 so early days, but I don't think he could have coped with chemo, so we are pleased.

He is following the pill taking regime and hasn't had any side effects so far so fingers crossed. 

thanks again and good luck, Paul

So glad to hear that Paul! And thank you, here's to peaceful Christmases for both our dads snd all the others.
 

claire