I'm so sorry to hear about your mum Lovemydad.

This must be a lot for you to get your head around at the moment, especially as it's come so soon after finding out she has cancer, but I want you to know that you are not alone.

So many of our members have, sadly, been in your position and will know all too well what you're going through at the moment so I'm sure some of them will be along soon to offer you their support and advice.

In the meantime, be kind to yourself Lovemydad and try to concentrate on the time you do have with your mum, making as many precious and special memories as you can.

Best wishes to you both,

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

I'm really sorry to hear what you are going through. It's just not fair is it ? I lost my mum and dad in the height of the pandemic. Granted it wasn't to cancer (although mum did have cancer years before this) I am too an only child and so I can empathise how enormous this feels. 
 

Don't be afraid to reach out to friends and family. Grief isn't linear. Write things down, if you can stomach it, keep a diary. Ask mum to write in it. Please remember you aren't alone ️

Hi I am also in complete devastation lost my dad 2 years ago found out today after lots of positive promises my mom cancer incurable devastated beyond belief I love the woman so much it hurts 

I'm waking up feeling horrible, get to work maybe switch off for an hour or two then it hits me. I'm ok after work as I go to see mum, but todays she's been really sleepy all day. I hope it's a tired day and not more deteriorating. I want her here, but I really do not want her to suffer. I hope I can stay strong and remember all the good things I. The future. 
it's tough seeing the change in the last few weeks. 
few weeks ago she was going up the stairs and walking to the toilet. Fast forward to today, we have hospice bed downstairs and mum needs help to get up to use the commode. Never could've have imagined this. Who knows how quick things can deteriorate. I'm so scared. 
 

we were given the meds for only injectable bu district nurse last week and told of syringe driver.... all these things freaked me out. 
 

my poor poor lovely mum, no one deserves to go through this cxxx

feel helpless. 
only in June was she driving me around inthe car. 

Thanks for your message. Today I've just felt really teary all day.

went to see mum for a couple of hours after work, will stay with her tomorrow night. She is so sleepy and sometimes a little confused, I want this to be the side effects of steroids and oromotph but I fear it s the deteriorating as well. This is so painful. I love my mum so much. I just hope I can be as strong as she was when she lived in her own when dad died. I hope I will always remember the good advice. I feel like a little girl, I'm in my 40s. I just can't bear to see the suffering it's heartbreaking. My mum keeps asking god to just take her. 
 

I don't want her to go, I just want my mum. But I know I can't change anything.