Hi [@RSxo]‍ 

I'm so sorry about the loss of your Mum. 55 is such an incredibly young age and 7 weeks is such a short time to get your head around what was happening.

I lost my Dad 17 years ago, when he was only 52 and I just lost my Mum last month to lung cancer. She was 68, but that still feels so young to me. She was so active and full of life before her diagnosis.

I'm no stranger to loss or death but this past month has been the hardest month of my life. I also feel empty and find it difficult to think of anything but my Mum every second of every day. You are not alone in how you're feeling and you are definitely not going crazy. I'm currrently speaking to a bereavement counsellor who has told me the death of a mother is one of the worst things we can experience in our lifetime and the pain of this is intense. Allow yourself to feel everything right now, cry when you need to, don't expect too much of yourself and most importantly, be kind to yourself. Three months is still in the very early stages of your grieving process.

I feel the same as you - how am I ever going to live the rest of my life without her? How am I ever going to be able to carry this pain with me forever? I'm 32 and it feels so young to lose your Mum as I still have my whole life ahead of me and need her guidance. I've found some comfort speaking to others on this forum who are in the later stages of grieving, years down the line, and they have said that time does heal. We will always, always miss our Mums but we will begin to manage without them, as much as we don't want to.

One thing that my bereavement counsellor has talked to me about, which I have found helpful is carrying my Mum with me. What would my Mum say to me right now in this situation? What would she want for me right now if she were here? What qualities do I see in myself that I have inherited from her that make me feel close to her right now? Thinking these things during my really low moments have made me feel closer to my Mum but I know everyone is different and what may be helpful to some won't be to others.

I just wanted to say I'm thinking of you, as I can empthise with how you feel and it is incredibly hard. No one will ever understand unless they have been through it themselves, which unfortunately so many on this forum have. We're all just trying our best to support each other however we can.

I'm here if you need to chat/vent.

Look after yourself,

J

This is so amazing to read - I'm so sorry for both of you going through this. I'm at the very start of my grief - my mum died yesterday from ovarian cancer and I am in such pain.

The advice from your counsellor makes perfect sense - I'm going to write it down to try and make sure i remember it in the coming weeks and months. 

Sending all my love to you xx

This is so amazing to read - I'm so sorry for both of you going through this. I'm at the very start of my grief - my mum died yesterday from ovarian cancer and I am in such pain.

The advice from your counsellor makes perfect sense - I'm going to write it down to try and make sure i remember it in the coming weeks and months. 

Sending all my love to you xx

Hi Catwin

I also lost my mum to ovarian cancer, how long after diagnosis did you have with your mum?

It's so helpful looking on this forum and seeing people have experienced similar but are so strong!

Sending lots of love 

xx 

So so sorry for your loss. I also lost my Mum in May she was 50 to ovarian cancer im so lost without her i want to be with her, the thought of life like this is debilatating