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I miss my mum so much

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I've posted a few times on here, but a little background: my mum passed away on the 31st March 2021, 7 weeks after diagnosis from bowel cancer, she was only 55.

I miss my mum so much. That feeling of emptiness never seems to go away. I think of my mum constantly, literally all the time, it consumes my mind, to the extent I feel like I am going crazy. 
 

At the same time, I still feel the worst part of my grief is yet to come. Don't get me wrong, I do cry. But I feel like it's not as much as I would've anticipated prior to losing my mum. I feel it's the calm before the storm. I'm currently in survival mode. 
I'm petrified when it does finally hit. I won't survive. Because the pain I am feeling currently, is unbearable within itself. 
 

It's just so hard. It's been nearly 3 months. 1/4 of a year. But I'm stuck in this limbo, this pain. I can't seem to move forward. 
 

I feel like nothing will make this better. The only thing that can make this better is my mum, and sadly she will never be able to make it better. 
 

I just can't believe she's gone. How am I meant to live the rest of my life without her? I'm only in my 20's. 
 

I miss her so much. 

 

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    Hiya,

    first of all lots of love to you, I know it's hard and I am not going to say I know what you are going through as it's probably the last thing you want to hear. I'm not going to say it gets easier and time is a good healer as again it's probably the last thing you want to hear.

    It's coming up to nearly 3 years since my Mum died from Cancer. We had 6 months with Mum after she was diagnosed. My sister was 24 at the time and I was 33.

    I think I lived about a year and half in my own world. I thought I hadn't changed but as I look back I had. I cried so much, would constantly talk about Mum and re-live each stage from being diagnosed up to the day Mum died.

    I know it's hard and I still cry now and I don't expect to stop crying until the day I finally die myself. 
     

    It is something that will stay with you for life but I found talking helped and taking small steps. The pain never goes away but talking helped me. It might be too soon for you at the moment so take your time and remember there is no time limit on grief and those who think there is are being silly. 

    keep those memories you shared together in your head and remember your Mum loves you and is with you always. 
     

     

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    Hiya,

    first of all lots of love to you, I know it's hard and I am not going to say I know what you are going through as it's probably the last thing you want to hear. I'm not going to say it gets easier and time is a good healer as again it's probably the last thing you want to hear.

    It's coming up to nearly 3 years since my Mum died from Cancer. We had 6 months with Mum after she was diagnosed. My sister was 24 at the time and I was 33.

    I think I lived about a year and half in my own world. I thought I hadn't changed but as I look back I had. I cried so much, would constantly talk about Mum and re-live each stage from being diagnosed up to the day Mum died.

    I know it's hard and I still cry now and I don't expect to stop crying until the day I finally die myself. 
     

    It is something that will stay with you for life but I found talking helped and taking small steps. The pain never goes away but talking helped me. It might be too soon for you at the moment so take your time and remember there is no time limit on grief and those who think there is are being silly. 

    keep those memories you shared together in your head and remember your Mum loves you and is with you always. 
     

     

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