My dear Mum: 3 days from diagnosis to death

I don't really know how to express how I feel right now, I'm still in a state of disbelief that I could lose my mum so suddenly. Apart from a swelling on her neck that caused her not to sleep so well (and prompted a hospital appointment to see what it was) she seemed fit and well. She then began feeling breathless, had scans on Tuesday at the hospital, was told by her doctor the next day that the scans found a mass in her chest that was likely cancer and then she died on Saturday. Only 3 days later. I really thought she would be ok. I convinced myself that because she had began feeling poorly for only a short time that we had caught the cancer early and she would be ok. She died of cardiac tamponade, fluid had built up around her heart as a result of the cancer. We are still waiting on definite answers but were told at the hospital following her death that it's very likely she had a very aggressive form of lung cancer and prognosis would have been poor but I keep thinking if we had only just got her to hospital sooner she would still be with us. She was only 68 and full of life. It's hard to come to terms with her not being with us any longer. I'm 32 and have now lost both my parents.

Has anyone had experience with a sudden death from cancer like this? I'm just struggling to believe it's possible but know this disease is cruel and unfair.

Parents
  • Hi  so sorry to hear about the loss of your mum, I too recently lost my mum who was only 65 years old. We lost her to lung cancer she was fit and healthy and only went to the drs over a cough but the cancer was too advanced. Although her diagnosis was 4 years ago and we lost her 14th November 2021, she was too young to die, she was still a Foster carer up till her death which Was so heartbreaking I get so angry sometimes at how cruel life can be. 

    I too still find it so difficult to come to terms xx 

    Xx Laura

     

Reply
  • Hi  so sorry to hear about the loss of your mum, I too recently lost my mum who was only 65 years old. We lost her to lung cancer she was fit and healthy and only went to the drs over a cough but the cancer was too advanced. Although her diagnosis was 4 years ago and we lost her 14th November 2021, she was too young to die, she was still a Foster carer up till her death which Was so heartbreaking I get so angry sometimes at how cruel life can be. 

    I too still find it so difficult to come to terms xx 

    Xx Laura

     

Children
No Data