Coping with loss of mum?


Three weeks ago my mum was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer. She had very few symptoms before this so it came as a complete shock to our family & by the time we found out it had already spread to other parts of her body. The doctors said she was too weak for chemotherapy and within a week she was moved to a hospice. I stayed with her day and night at the hospice and on Valentine’s Day she passed away. This has all happened so quickly. Christmas Day I celebrated with my family, including my mum and now she’s just gone. I don’t know how to process this, I feel empty and broken and don’t know how to just carry on normal life knowing I’ll never be able to talk to my mum or see her again.

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  • Hello [@xvir99]‍ 

    Your post is very similar to the situation I am in. My mum was diagnosed on the 18th January with lung cancer, she returned home very frail from hospital after 5 weeks, and not eating or drinking. Yesterday, she returned to hospital. The doctor has confirmed she's deteriorating so fast there has nothing they can do. The cancer has spread basically everywhere.

     

    The only thing I can say to you, which i keep saying to myself and although I know I have not yet lost my mum completely, at least your mum was not in prolonged pain and it happened very quickly. I've read so many stories of how the pain for some people is drawn out and causes so much heartache to see someone you love so much in a huge amount of agony. 

    It's honestly something that no one prepares you for, and you feel so overwhelmed by the grief. I wish you so much strength and love during this time, and if you ever want to talk, feel free to message me.

    With lots of love x

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  • Hello [@xvir99]‍ 

    Your post is very similar to the situation I am in. My mum was diagnosed on the 18th January with lung cancer, she returned home very frail from hospital after 5 weeks, and not eating or drinking. Yesterday, she returned to hospital. The doctor has confirmed she's deteriorating so fast there has nothing they can do. The cancer has spread basically everywhere.

     

    The only thing I can say to you, which i keep saying to myself and although I know I have not yet lost my mum completely, at least your mum was not in prolonged pain and it happened very quickly. I've read so many stories of how the pain for some people is drawn out and causes so much heartache to see someone you love so much in a huge amount of agony. 

    It's honestly something that no one prepares you for, and you feel so overwhelmed by the grief. I wish you so much strength and love during this time, and if you ever want to talk, feel free to message me.

    With lots of love x

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