Hello 

I also lost my mom nearly 3years ago very suddenly (within 2 weeks) all I can say is allow yourself to grieve I still do everyday! but its different now I don't cry everyday but my mom is still the first thing I think of in the morning and the last thing at night we were so close and I couldn't imagine my life without her but I read about the 7 stages of grief which helped I also reached out to family and friends but I also told people when I was having a bad time and I didn't want to talk...just look after yourself! and although it will always hurt and although I didn't believe it at the time when people said it to me you will learn to live with your grief and not be always overwhelmed by it but it will take time. 

Take care  

Thank you, hearing that it gets easier from someone who can relate does make me feel better. It's so hard to imagine not feeling this way and each day it without my mum gets more painful. I will take your advice and read about the stages of grief.

Hi that's really awful. I've had the exact same experience - mum passed away suddenly the day after Valentines. She had had symptoms of lung cancer for several months but was putting off seeing the doc for confirmation. She had COPD and heart issues and was a heavy smoker. 
My brother died 5 weeks ago of alcoholic liver disease. This has been a sh***y, sh***y time. If you want to unload, do. 

Hello [@xvir99]‍ 

Your post is very similar to the situation I am in. My mum was diagnosed on the 18th January with lung cancer, she returned home very frail from hospital after 5 weeks, and not eating or drinking. Yesterday, she returned to hospital. The doctor has confirmed she's deteriorating so fast there has nothing they can do. The cancer has spread basically everywhere.

The only thing I can say to you, which i keep saying to myself and although I know I have not yet lost my mum completely, at least your mum was not in prolonged pain and it happened very quickly. I've read so many stories of how the pain for some people is drawn out and causes so much heartache to see someone you love so much in a huge amount of agony. 

It's honestly something that no one prepares you for, and you feel so overwhelmed by the grief. I wish you so much strength and love during this time, and if you ever want to talk, feel free to message me.

With lots of love x