Hi EMFPatts, 

I feel for you, my mum passed away on Monday. Two and a bit weeks after leaving hospital after a stroke. Ovarian cancer had spread to the brain with my mum, and she too deteriorated very quickly. We were given a 3 month prognosis with mum, and it was extremely disturbing to see her worsen so quickly. 

I know there are no words that can bring you real comfort, but I just want you to know you are not alone. I too lie awake at night with a lot of thoughts. I am taking some comfort from knowing my mum is now in the comfort of a chapel of rest, I am seeing her tomorrow and have extended the invite to many of her family and friends. If you are familiar with your dad's friends or extended family I'd recommend picking up the phone, I even managed to crack a smile at one of my mum's best friends, who said she'd love to visit her at the chapel of rest. 

I also feel a sense of relief, and I beat myself up for that. On mum's final day she took quite a dramatic turn for the worse and I have managed to convince myself that keeping her here would've been cruel. She was in such a bad way, but remember it is not relief she has passed, its relief that our loved one is no longer going through the suffering of their final days/hours. 

Rest assured I have also had a few days where I haven't cried and felt nothing. I have my wobbles, but our parents are a part of us, your dad sounds just as strong as my mum and I can only hope that our parents have left us with an element of this strength. They would never want to see us breaking down. 

You really are in my thoughts, please remember you are not alone, your story is extremely similar to mine and you have my deepest sympathies. 

Take care, 

Catherine x 

Hi EMFPatts, 

I feel for you, my mum passed away on Monday. Two and a bit weeks after leaving hospital after a stroke. Ovarian cancer had spread to the brain with my mum, and she too deteriorated very quickly. We were given a 3 month prognosis with mum, and it was extremely disturbing to see her worsen so quickly. 

I know there are no words that can bring you real comfort, but I just want you to know you are not alone. I too lie awake at night with a lot of thoughts. I am taking some comfort from knowing my mum is now in the comfort of a chapel of rest, I am seeing her tomorrow and have extended the invite to many of her family and friends. If you are familiar with your dad's friends or extended family I'd recommend picking up the phone, I even managed to crack a smile at one of my mum's best friends, who said she'd love to visit her at the chapel of rest. 

I also feel a sense of relief, and I beat myself up for that. On mum's final day she took quite a dramatic turn for the worse and I have managed to convince myself that keeping her here would've been cruel. She was in such a bad way, but remember it is not relief she has passed, its relief that our loved one is no longer going through the suffering of their final days/hours. 

Rest assured I have also had a few days where I haven't cried and felt nothing. I have my wobbles, but our parents are a part of us, your dad sounds just as strong as my mum and I can only hope that our parents have left us with an element of this strength. They would never want to see us breaking down. 

You really are in my thoughts, please remember you are not alone, your story is extremely similar to mine and you have my deepest sympathies. 

Take care, 

Catherine x