Hi Victoria,

I will speak with you shall I DM you?

Chris

Hi Victoria

i am so sorry about your husband. 
My husband died on the 19th April this year after being diagnosed with stage 4 bowel cancer in August 19. 

My husband was 58, we had been together for 32 years and have 2 daughters 25 and 28. We were really happy and loved our life together, we were very lucky. 
I have good friends but none of them have experienced this and although I can talk to them I don't want to depress them. I don't think anyone can truly understand unless it's happened to  them. 
I would find it helpful to talk too

Amanda

Hello Amanda,

I am so sorry to hear about your husband's passing recently. I fully understand what you're going through and it's probably nothing like what you expected.

I can only speak about how I feel because I lost my gorgeous wife in 2018. 
Do you find that you just somehow get through the day? And take a day at a time? I know my wife's passing is over two years ago but I don't feel any different now to day one. I have written down some of my feelings which I sometimes look at or add to. So enough about me how are you coping and your children? I would like to hear from you at your convenience.

Chris x

Hi all.

Haven't been on here for a while, but it is World Mental Health Day today, and thought I would catch up with like-minded people who are going through the same horrible situation as me.

Victoria and Amanda, I lost my husband two years ago to non-small cell lung cancer (very fit man who never smoked in his life) and it is still as raw now as it was back then.  He was taken away to the hospital on 8 October 2018 and didn't come back.

I can only say, do what it takes to get through each day to live this "new life" that none of us want to be living in.

Chris has already mentioned that you can message him, or message me if I can be of any support to you and yours at this time.

Thinking of you all.

June

Hi Victoria,

sorry to hear your loss. I have lost my precious son 34 years old on 21st August 2020 just after a day we got the bone marrow biopsy results which was pancreatic cancer not curable was given a week to live. He had no symptoms just started with really bad back pain on mid July   I thought maybe he pulled his muscles while exercising, as he use to do regular exercise and swimming. GP thought it was sciatica was prescribed gabapentin, it didn't help him along with other painkillers. Third week he developed shortness of breath and palpitation. Fourth week he was admitted to hospital, after blood test found out his haemoglobin was 85 which is very low for normal person. Doctor thought Leukaemia, had CT scan, X-ray bloods test didn't show nothing. He was so positive and strong, kept telling me I'm strong and positive don't worry mum. After seventh day of admission we got Results. It was devastating news, we both cried, I manage to call all his friends and family. My daughter came from Scotland. Everybody was shocked, just couple of weeks ago he was normal healthy man. Next day he passed away in my arm. He never smoked, no alcohol, no fizzy drinks, regular exercise, very health conscious. He was kind, gentle, caring loving child of mine. We were living together, very close. He loved travelling, trekking, reading, video games, music and was writing his food journal wherever he traveled. I miss my son so much, I'm heart broken, pain is just unbearable.

ill be really glad to hear from you. We can share our pain.

a grieving mother 

Ash

Hi Victoria,

I'm so sorry about your husband.

I lost my husband just 2wks ago, he was only 56yrs old diagnosed in April of this year.

We had been together for 29yrs & no children... We were so happy and had so many plans for his retirement. I am totally devastated & no idea how how to even begin to cope with his loss.

Unless you experience the loss of your beloved other half, you don't have any idea of the anguish this brings.

Mitch

Hi Victoria so sorry to hear about your husband so heartbreaking. I lost my wonderful husband 20 July 2019 it was so hard as he had been fighting for so long and always beat it so always believed he would.we would have been married 41 years in the September. I miss and love him more then words can say. I would like to talk. Tricia 

Hello, I know what you are going through, I lost my husband June this year, after being diagnosed last Christmas with oesophageal cancer. We were married for 36 years this month, he was a very young 69. I miss him terribly, I hate the scared feeling, life is so lonely, friends are kind, but nobody knows until it happens to you. It's a comfort to read that others know these feelings. This pandemic is making things so much worse, not being able to meet people. Just have to take one day at a time. 

Hello,

im so sorry for your loss, it's horrible isn't it? I know that scared feeling, it feels like you can't breathe. 
I can't believe that it's nearly 6 months since my wonderful husband passed. I can't believe that I'm still here but I know I've got to go on for my girls and my dad. My husband never gave up hope. 
I feel like I'm just going through the motions though. I know I was lucky to have had 32 years with my husband, lots of people don't have that and we were so happy together. 
As you said, one day at a time