Hi there ...

So so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment... this new way of life sinse covid has made hard situations even cruler ..

But please know turning to alcohol is a temporary solution ... I used to work at a 're hab ... and trust me, it starts off as a crutch, and turns into the problem you will find it so hard to stop ..  it will be far worse then facing the situation you are in ..

On this site, we all have enormous problems ... wer either going through cancer our selfs or caring for someone we love with it .. or both ... those problems your comming a cross, your not alone ... we've all been there, that's how we ended up here too .. but we try to hold each other's hand through those tuff times we face ... so we don't turn to other things to take the pain away ... it's so hard, but it's doable ..

I myself have had my cancer journey.. then 2 other close family got diagnosed within months of me .. then I lost a young niece to cystic fibrosis... then lost a sister to dementure.. then my granddaughter got acute myeloid leukaemia in Feb... facing chemo .. radio .. and stem cell .. at 18 ... and now another niece has been diagnosed with cancer last week ...

So hunny, I know all too well how easy it would be to have a drink to dull the pain ... but I know in the end it would have a hold on my life ... and like you I have a son who needs me to keep it together, as wer all holding on ... just .. and at my big sisters funeral .. I had to wait outside .. only a few let in .. and through all of this, we've not been able to hug either .. yes it's overwhelming crule .. but it's a world now where everyone is hurting .. everyone misses hugs .. your not alone .. we know how it feels ..

So yes life is hard for you .. but you have a son to help you through .. so many on here have no one .. you have that amazing gift your hubby left you .. a son that is part of him ..

If I were you, I'd put all those feelings into making a go of your business... to stop you thinking 24/7 .. they may all have problems of their own, you don't know about ... so when things get hard ... come on here, talk to us .. don't turn to drink .. 

There's loads here , you could help as well as be helped .. so many on here just want a vertual hug too .. not quite the same .. but a step to feeling someone cares .. so go on, reach out, help those going through tuff times too .. you may find you get far more then you give here .. 

Sending you a vertual hug.... Chrissie x

Hey Chrissie - wow, I feel ashamed of feeling sorry for myself.  You are up against so much, and yet so postive.  I'm hugging back xxx

Jane x

Hi there ...

I only told you as I wanted you to know we get it on here ... every journey is really heart breaking... but we hold on .. esp when things get too much out in the big world ... and this year seems doubly crule .. 

You'll always find someone here will hold your hand ... and when we know wer not alone we find a way to get through one more day ...together ...

I just so scared when someone says a drink helps ... I've seen what it does to those who think it's a cure to dull the pain .. in moderation it is ... but it devistates lives in excess.... it stops the pain in the early days .. but we need to feel and go through grief ... it's part of the process ...

And those people that let you down, that's their problem, not yours ... your welcome here any time ... put those thoughts down .. it sucks at funerals now ... they even closed the door at my sister's funeral, so we couldn't even listen from outside .. you've got some lovely responses from the amazing people that come on here ... so don't grieve alone ... so you've got lots of vertual hugs here ... 

I'm sure your hubby is proud of you, and would want you to help his son ... and you know we don't loose them, we just keep them tucked up safely in our hearts now ... you can take him with you ... it will be a really hard year .. but hold on in there ... Chrissie  

Hi there ...

I only told you as I wanted you to know we get it on here ... every journey is really heart breaking... but we hold on .. esp when things get too much out in the big world ... and this year seems doubly crule .. 

You'll always find someone here will hold your hand ... and when we know wer not alone we find a way to get through one more day ...together ...

I just so scared when someone says a drink helps ... I've seen what it does to those who think it's a cure to dull the pain .. in moderation it is ... but it devistates lives in excess.... it stops the pain in the early days .. but we need to feel and go through grief ... it's part of the process ...

And those people that let you down, that's their problem, not yours ... your welcome here any time ... put those thoughts down .. it sucks at funerals now ... they even closed the door at my sister's funeral, so we couldn't even listen from outside .. you've got some lovely responses from the amazing people that come on here ... so don't grieve alone ... so you've got lots of vertual hugs here ... 

I'm sure your hubby is proud of you, and would want you to help his son ... and you know we don't loose them, we just keep them tucked up safely in our hearts now ... you can take him with you ... it will be a really hard year .. but hold on in there ... Chrissie  

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