I am so sorry for your loss Penniecrayon. It must all be so vivid for you at the moment but I just wanted you to know that you are not alone, that we are all here for you during this difficult time. 

Sincere condolences on behalf of the Cancer Chat team. We are thinking of you and your family. 

Warmest wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

My heart goes out to you. I've only recently lost my beautiful mammy to lung cancer. 3 weeks ago today, she fought so hard and even fought to see my son being born. He was only a week old when she passed. 

I completely understand where your coming from as I minded my mam everyday for 12 weeks. I still feel so scared thinking of her on her own without my help but then I remember she doesnt need my help anymore, she only needed that when she was sick and she's not sick anymore. 

Nobody's words will help ease the pain your feeling. Cancer is so cruel and unkind. It's just not fair. 

You're daddy is at peace now. 

Like the posters above, I think what you heard is the "death rattle" which is so scary to hear. My mam had it for 2 days before she passed. Her lovely nurses fitted her with 2 syringe drivers for pain and anti agitation meds which helped her alot but the stubborn woman she was, kept fighting it! 

I really wish you all the best and hope you find the strength you need to help you over the next while. 

X x x

Hi all,

I lost my dad yesterday to lung cancer. I'm. So so so sad, I'm heartbroken, I still can't believe it... I. I miss him so much already, he was my rock, the person who told you it would all be ok and can't believe he's not going to be in my life and my future. Cancer is so cruel. The only thing I hold on to is that he's not in pain anymore, but I'm angry he was in pain in the first place. How this is happening to so many people still in such a terrible way I don't understand.

sending all my love to you all, and support and hugs. 

Hi all,

I lost my dad yesterday to lung cancer. I'm. So so so sad, I'm heartbroken, I still can't believe it... I. I miss him so much already, he was my rock, the person who told you it would all be ok and can't believe he's not going to be in my life and my future. Cancer is so cruel. The only thing I hold on to is that he's not in pain anymore, but I'm angry he was in pain in the first place. How this is happening to so many people still in such a terrible way I don't understand.

sending all my love to you all, and support and hugs.