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Can’t close my eyes : I lost my dad today

Penniecrayon
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I lost my dad today. He was diagnosed with Lung Cancer in October and told it had spread to the brain beginning of June. 

 

I don't want to close my eyes. It wasn't peaceful like I had read. It was as if he was drowning, continuously gasping for air. I'm so worried that he was in pain but we didn't know. 

 

I'm so scared that he is by himself all alone now too. We have been by his side for the last 8 weeks.

 

i feel absolutely heartbroken  

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    Hi Penniecrayon,

    I am so sorry to hear about your dad and offer my sincere condolences. Having lost a lot of my family and close friends to cancer, I know how difficult it is to cope when a loved one doesn't have a peaceful ending. To start with these will be your memories of your dad, but with the passage of time, you will gradually begin to recall happier times.

    I know that when my own mum died of secondary breast cancer which was in her lungs, liver, bones and brain she had a very unsettled end, which upset us all, but we were still glad to have been there with her to the very last minute. We also felt glad to know that she was at peace at last and wasn't suffering any longer.

    Thinking of you and your family.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

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    Hi Penniecrayon,

    I am so sorry to hear about your dad and offer my sincere condolences. Having lost a lot of my family and close friends to cancer, I know how difficult it is to cope when a loved one doesn't have a peaceful ending. To start with these will be your memories of your dad, but with the passage of time, you will gradually begin to recall happier times.

    I know that when my own mum died of secondary breast cancer which was in her lungs, liver, bones and brain she had a very unsettled end, which upset us all, but we were still glad to have been there with her to the very last minute. We also felt glad to know that she was at peace at last and wasn't suffering any longer.

    Thinking of you and your family.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

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