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I My lovely wife Andrea died on 3rd April from metastatic abdominal cancer she was 49 I cannot go on . I cared for her everyday i even when she went to the hospice, I would stay the night and go home in the morning to get washed and have a sleep but only about an hour . I would take Andrea clean pyjamas and whatever else she needs, I’m so hurting she died... she is so beautiful better than me I look at pics of before and during that swine of a selfish curse , you brave and beautiful woman xxx

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    Hi Devondog.

    i know. It hurts. IMy wife passed last month. Four years of cancer ops, Chemo, radiotherapy etc.

    i'm not going to say it gets better, I'm looking for that help myself. 
    My wife died at home. In my arms. Some say I'm lucky. I did nothing. Could I have helped her for a few more hours. Am I selfish to want more time 2hen she told me she was ready. It hurts to know you can't do anything. Please give me a time machin e.

     

    Devondog. She had a hosp bed. I slept in a camp bed next to her. She had panic attacks because of her breathing problems during the night. For several months we slept with the light on durin* the night. I still can't sleep with the light off.

     

    I get it.

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    Hi Devondog.

    i know. It hurts. IMy wife passed last month. Four years of cancer ops, Chemo, radiotherapy etc.

    i'm not going to say it gets better, I'm looking for that help myself. 
    My wife died at home. In my arms. Some say I'm lucky. I did nothing. Could I have helped her for a few more hours. Am I selfish to want more time 2hen she told me she was ready. It hurts to know you can't do anything. Please give me a time machin e.

     

    Devondog. She had a hosp bed. I slept in a camp bed next to her. She had panic attacks because of her breathing problems during the night. For several months we slept with the light on durin* the night. I still can't sleep with the light off.

     

    I get it.

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