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My mum passed away today...

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Earlier today my mum passed away. She was diagnosed with cancer ten weeks ago after feeling unwell for a few weeks. It's all happened so fast. Friday the hospice called because they noticed a change and said death was imminent, we said our goodbyes. She slipped into unconsciousness fully two nights ago. 

She was 59 years old and I wasn't ready to lose my mum, I have four young kids who doted on her (and she doted on).

I feel sick and honestly don't know how I'm going to live without her, all I want is my mum. I know I have to function and be there for the kids - but all I want is to just stop existing because it hurts so much. 

I've honestly never felt pain like this. 

please tell me it's normal and eases? Because I don't think I can live like this. 

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    Hello

    I just wanted to say I'm very sorry for your loss. I hope you are OK. 

    I lost my lovely Mam to stomach cancer in October 2019. It's been just over 6 months so I know exactly what you are going through and my heart breaks for you. My mum died 12 days after a shock diagnosis as she had been feeling OK and we and her doctor thought she had a chest infection which turned out to be blood clots. My Mam was also 59 which is far too young. I feel so angry that she didn't get to celebrate turning 60 and she was cheated out of a retirement with my Dad. 

    I too have kids and it was very difficult to be a Mum in the first few weeks and months. I won't say it gets easier, but it does ease slightly with time. Grief certainly comes in waves with me, but my Mam is very much in my thoughts most of the time. She was my best friend. 

    I wish you well in these difficult times ahead of you. Grief can also be quite a lonely time, so my advice is to try and take any help that is offered if you can. 

    Take care x

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    Hello

    I just wanted to say I'm very sorry for your loss. I hope you are OK. 

    I lost my lovely Mam to stomach cancer in October 2019. It's been just over 6 months so I know exactly what you are going through and my heart breaks for you. My mum died 12 days after a shock diagnosis as she had been feeling OK and we and her doctor thought she had a chest infection which turned out to be blood clots. My Mam was also 59 which is far too young. I feel so angry that she didn't get to celebrate turning 60 and she was cheated out of a retirement with my Dad. 

    I too have kids and it was very difficult to be a Mum in the first few weeks and months. I won't say it gets easier, but it does ease slightly with time. Grief certainly comes in waves with me, but my Mam is very much in my thoughts most of the time. She was my best friend. 

    I wish you well in these difficult times ahead of you. Grief can also be quite a lonely time, so my advice is to try and take any help that is offered if you can. 

    Take care x

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