Sudden death from cancer

I don't understand how my mum died so suddenly. She had a bad back for several months. Xrays showed all clear.  Then she got a cough and was given antibiotics. On the 16th August we were chatting on text. She felt poorly. But just fluey and the coughing was making her back worse. On the 19th August she collapsed with fluid on her lungs. They drained it and confirmed that in the fluid there were terminal malignant cells. They tested the cells but it didn't tell them where the primary cancer was but it had metastasised.  She died on the 26th August. I don't understand how she deteriorated so quickly. From a chest infection to cancer then dead. In the space of a week.  Evdn three days before she died she was sitting up in bed alert and eating. Very poorly. But she did not look like someone who was dying. When they told her she had cancer she died two days later. I feel telling her she had terminal cancer pushed her over the edge 

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  • hello 

    i lost my dad last Dec, and for the last 7 weeks of his life he was in pain and on end of life care he needed round the clock care and i was always by his side, so found comfort in spending quality time with him ... but having said that i think him passing quicker would have been a greater gift than time because watching him day in and day out suffering was the hardest thing in the world.. Cancer is evil and it only wins in the end no matter how long it takes either days weeks or years !! 

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  • hello 

    i lost my dad last Dec, and for the last 7 weeks of his life he was in pain and on end of life care he needed round the clock care and i was always by his side, so found comfort in spending quality time with him ... but having said that i think him passing quicker would have been a greater gift than time because watching him day in and day out suffering was the hardest thing in the world.. Cancer is evil and it only wins in the end no matter how long it takes either days weeks or years !! 

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