Sudden death from cancer

I don't understand how my mum died so suddenly. She had a bad back for several months. Xrays showed all clear.  Then she got a cough and was given antibiotics. On the 16th August we were chatting on text. She felt poorly. But just fluey and the coughing was making her back worse. On the 19th August she collapsed with fluid on her lungs. They drained it and confirmed that in the fluid there were terminal malignant cells. They tested the cells but it didn't tell them where the primary cancer was but it had metastasised.  She died on the 26th August. I don't understand how she deteriorated so quickly. From a chest infection to cancer then dead. In the space of a week.  Evdn three days before she died she was sitting up in bed alert and eating. Very poorly. But she did not look like someone who was dying. When they told her she had cancer she died two days later. I feel telling her she had terminal cancer pushed her over the edge 

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  • How dreadful for you:no time to adjust.

    sometimes cancer remains hidden until a very late stage.

    peoole do sometimes give up- they feel the time is right to let go.

    A friend's mother kept going with metastatic breast cancer until his wedding day, then died within a week

  • It's scary isn't it.  I just can't believe how fast she deteriorated and such advanced cancer with just a bad back. But a clear X-ray. Unless she was hiding other symptoms as she was frightened.  God I hate cancer. Thank you for replying. 

  • Hi,

    My Dad was admitted with a UTI and struggling to eat and did a CT scan and discovered cancer and died just 9 days later in hospital.  I don't think he even knew he had cancer, we never told him as he was always so upbeat but he died peacefully in his sleep.

    The whole cancer thing is awful, it seems unless a CT scan is done, any of us can have it as Dad also had a xray and was clear.

    This time will be awful for you , the first few months are terrible and I lost my Dad not a Mum which will be even harder for most girls.

    Cry and let all the emotions out.  Use this forum as a support.

    Lots of hugs as it really is an awful time x

  • It's scary isn't it. That you can have cancer and not know until it's too late. I'm trying not to become anxious about every ache and pain in my body. But it's made me very nervous. 

  • I'm also sorry for your loss. It's very hard isn't it.  I feel like I need to try and move forward a bit as I'm crying every day and I'm angry and anxious. My husband and kids are on eggshells around me. So for their sake I need to try and get a hold on things I feel 

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