Hi,

i am so sorry you lost your mom. There really aren’t enough words to describe the pain is there? I hope the funeral went okay. I know my mom is watching over me and I can hear her telling me it’s okay and not to cry. So I know your mom will be doing the same thing. But in reality that’s not enough is it? I would literally give anything to just be able to talk to her for just a minute and hear her voice

There is such a special bond between moms and daughters that nothing else compares. I always knew I loved her beyond words but now she’s not here I realise I loved her to the depths of my soul. I feel like a piece of me has died when she passed. I know I’ll never be the same again, how can I be.

in time I know we both will find a new normal and the pain won’t be as fresh but right now that seems impossible.

one minute I think I’m okay and then another card gets pushed through the door and I’m in tears again

we have a 5 month old lab puppy and he knows something isn’t right. I swear he keeps looking for mom. He was with us at the hospice everyday, and he could never settle in the room, think he could sense or smell the cancer in mom.We can’t leave the room or even a second without him right by our sides. It’s like he is scared to be on his own and that we will leave him. It breaks my heart

completely understand about trying to go out in the teal world is hard. I popped to the shops today and found myself in tears so just sat in a bench. A very kind gentleman came over as was worried what was wrong with me, could barely get the words out before I had to walk off.

i am here if you ever want to talk or just someone to listen.

lucy

I just want to say, I know. 

My dad went to sleep in March, we knew since September, but it was all positive until 6 weeks before when the operation to cure was taken away. He was as fit as a fiddle and we were also in Norfolk only 3 weeks before. 

I am 32, him 58 and we’re also 2 peas in a pod. I have a younger sister and my mum who I am so desperately trying to hold up, she is being amazing, but is so so lost as well. 

We had a burial so have somewhere to go, but I just can’t accept this has even happened, I can’t conprehend never seeing him again. 

Feel free to PM me if you want to chat, I’m struggling as well x

I can't believe i'm reading what you've written. My mum was told she had cancer 2 months ago, it was in her breast and then spread to her liver. She was completely well a few months ago! 

They told her she had a couple of months to live, but within a week or so the cancer had spread even further and she was gone. 

She was my whole world. We were incredibly similar and wonderfully close. 
She was only 53 and I'm 26. 

The pain for me is getting worse every day since the funeral. I can't cope.. I've had to move house and my work have only given me 3 days compassionate leave. 

I feel your pain and i'm going through this alongside you. 

Sending the best wishes to you x

Hi,

i am so sorry you are going through this as well. The thought that someone else is feeling how i am is heart breaking as I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy. The pain is unbearable isn’t it?

ive started writing in a book pretending its mom, so I can have a conversation with her. She is the one person I need to talk to about this and she’s not here. It’s not the same but it is helping a little I think. 

How can there be a god when he has taken my mom is was beautiful inside and out and he leaves evil people alive. How is that fair? Anyway my brother has just called round so have to go now but I am here whenever you want to talk

lucy x

Hi lucy i dont thinks theres a god but by goodness theres something going on how we are here is a pure mirical in itself ive done like you cursed god asked why its part of greif i was saying last night to my diseased partner wait till i get there whoever did this to yous in trouble in a big way .Have you thought to private message others of your age going thrugh this then you can support oneanother over the coming months not me ime to old but ones yout similer age ive made a great friend on here we have supported oneanothere over this last and athoe never met have become great friends i cant give name but try it and all the othere who are reading it we have just about discussed everything about everything it can give you continuity .paul

so sorry for your loss my mum was diagnosed last week with lung cancer thats aggressively spread to her liver /lymph n breast ...she started with a pain in her side going into her back n a terrible morning cough...loss of appetite n tired ...other than that shes well we go this week to talk about treatment they say will keep her well

dont know what comes next ...how long she will be here at present its all so upsetting ....numb xx

It truly is the only place you can let it all out. I saw a counsellor before and after, but felt as amazing as they are if they haven’t experienced pain like this then they really don’t understand. 

Dont hold your emotions in, even in front of your dad. Me and my mum cry together, we are experiencing the same but different. 

I don’t think I will even come to terms with the fact he was fine one minute and the next we were burying him, he was supposed to grow old, be a Grandad, walk me down the aisle and it has all been ripped away and as for my mums future I just feel so awful for her and can’t begin to imagine. X

Hi,

completely agree unless you have been in this post which I don’t wish for anyone you can’t fully understand.

I can’t get my head around the fact that she’s not here and it happened so quickly. The most shocking and hardest thing is she was poorly in January and had to have a chest x ray and it was completely fine fast forward to June and she is diagnosed with terminal lung cancer which has spread everywhere. Doesn’t seem right does it?

its her funeral tomorrow and don’t know how I’m going to get through it

lucy x

Thinking of you today. Xx