Hi maybe your dads trying to take the pain away with a relationship to fill the massive gap your mums left i lost my partner just over a year ago i i joined a social group and there were many ladies there that would like a man friend and it would have been so easy to fall into a relationship to help with the pain i i didnt as it would have bee unfair to them but as a man myself ive seen a few start with friendships it may last or carry on but watever happends you should be proud your dad stuck by and cared for your mum a lot dont .ivr met them to .so i would cut him some slack and be polite . I have to say the pain he is going through is about as bad as it gets and the loneliness is beyond what you can imagine you could just say at the moment your not ready to be in contact and leave it at that .but ime sorry you lost your poor mum and it must be difficult for you just try not to get angry it serves no purpose it only hurts everyone . Best wishs .paul

Hi maybe your dads trying to take the pain away with a relationship to fill the massive gap your mums left i lost my partner just over a year ago i i joined a social group and there were many ladies there that would like a man friend and it would have been so easy to fall into a relationship to help with the pain i i didnt as it would have bee unfair to them but as a man myself ive seen a few start with friendships it may last or carry on but watever happends you should be proud your dad stuck by and cared for your mum a lot dont .ivr met them to .so i would cut him some slack and be polite . I have to say the pain he is going through is about as bad as it gets and the loneliness is beyond what you can imagine you could just say at the moment your not ready to be in contact and leave it at that .but ime sorry you lost your poor mum and it must be difficult for you just try not to get angry it serves no purpose it only hurts everyone . Best wishs .paul

Thanks for your reply paul I no how hard it was for me to lose my mum and I no my dad would be hurting more mum was his life I just thought it was way to quick to move on. I have my own family my dad lives by himself so he must be lonely I will be polite and keep things civil.

I hate cancer so much it has pretty much destroyed our family I have 2 brothers and sister who all thought a new relationship was to soon the end of the day I no it's not our decision to make thankyou for your advice and I'm sorry about you also loving a loved one I wish you all the best.