Hi there ...

So sorry, you lost your mum to this crule disease... l know you will miss your mum forever .. and l bet your dad will too ... just because he's found someone else, it doesn't take away from the fact they had 47 years ... and he cared for her when she was ill .. 

I think life is like a book .. with many chapters and your mum was a huge part of his book .. I think your mum would want him to be happy again ... not waste away grieving .. now your dad's older,  he knows how precious life is as he's in the autumn of his life .. would you really want him lonely ... or want him to smile again after all he's been through too ..

Maybe he didn't tell you, because he was scared of your reaction ... and l must admit I'm really miffed his new lady would try to add you to her face book .. it's beond me ... but we can't choose who people choose to be with ... and even though no one will be as good for him as your lovely mum .. you havnt got to live with her .. and if you love your dad, you could be civil to her on the occasions you do ... for your dad ..  

Life is full of twists and turns .. but I'm sure if you support your dad, then you will have him in your life .. as so many fall out with a parent because of this .. and I spent 4 years on my own after my divorce after 27 years .. and the loneliness is overwhelming at times ... remember it takes nothing away from your mum ... you and dad, will keep her in your hearts and take her through your journey through life ... and if you have a heart to heart with your dad, and you listen to him .. you will see how much he loved your mum ... Chrissie xx

Thank you for your reply everything you said makes sense I just thought it was to soon I no it's not up to me to decide that and yes your right my mum would want him to be happy.

Thank you for your reply everything you said makes sense I just thought it was to soon I no it's not up to me to decide that and yes your right my mum would want him to be happy.