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Losing my dad

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My dad had a cold at the start of March and went to the doctors he sent him home with antibiotics but it got worse he ended up in a&e they drained 3 liters of fluid off his lungs 

They tested the fluid and found cancer cells ,after a ct scan they found it  has spread through out his body and have given him 3-6 months 

My dad was genrally of good health he never complained about  being sick . My heart is breaking I feel so useless although I'm a 48 year old Male and my dad is 74 I don't know how to cope I've  never lost any one close 

I'm  not sure I want to see him slowly die , I feel I have to be the strong one because in the only son with 2 sisters , but I'm not 

What can I say to him when I see him ?? , i didn't  leave home till 45 we were all  so close , I love my dad so much

Thank you for reading this I know I'm not alone but I feel so sad

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    Hi.

    Firstly I am so so sorry to read about your poor Dad. It is heart breaking when a loved one has this illness & you can't do a thing.

    I lost my dear Dad last October, exactly 8 weeks from diagnosis to losing him. My sister's , Mum & I just talked about normal everyday things. Towards very end he loved talking about memories of when we were all little .... I am youngest at 49. 

    We knew his time was near as he kept reaching out to "someone " that we cudnt see. 

    I am still struggling with my grief now, but knowing Dad is at peace & no longer in pain is a huge relief. My dad was like your dear Dad, except where your dad had 3 litters drained, my Dad had 6 litres drained , 2 or 3 times within 8 weeks. Watching him go from a big stocky man to a tiny , frail old man absolutely DEVASTATED me, but I held it together for my mum's sake. 

    I hope your dear Dad has a very peaceful passing when his time comes. Sending you love & hugs, & No, you are definitely not alone xx

    Take care 

     

    Josie x

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    Hi.

    Firstly I am so so sorry to read about your poor Dad. It is heart breaking when a loved one has this illness & you can't do a thing.

    I lost my dear Dad last October, exactly 8 weeks from diagnosis to losing him. My sister's , Mum & I just talked about normal everyday things. Towards very end he loved talking about memories of when we were all little .... I am youngest at 49. 

    We knew his time was near as he kept reaching out to "someone " that we cudnt see. 

    I am still struggling with my grief now, but knowing Dad is at peace & no longer in pain is a huge relief. My dad was like your dear Dad, except where your dad had 3 litters drained, my Dad had 6 litres drained , 2 or 3 times within 8 weeks. Watching him go from a big stocky man to a tiny , frail old man absolutely DEVASTATED me, but I held it together for my mum's sake. 

    I hope your dear Dad has a very peaceful passing when his time comes. Sending you love & hugs, & No, you are definitely not alone xx

    Take care 

     

    Josie x

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