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Losing my dad

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My dad had a cold at the start of March and went to the doctors he sent him home with antibiotics but it got worse he ended up in a&e they drained 3 liters of fluid off his lungs 

They tested the fluid and found cancer cells ,after a ct scan they found it  has spread through out his body and have given him 3-6 months 

My dad was genrally of good health he never complained about  being sick . My heart is breaking I feel so useless although I'm a 48 year old Male and my dad is 74 I don't know how to cope I've  never lost any one close 

I'm  not sure I want to see him slowly die , I feel I have to be the strong one because in the only son with 2 sisters , but I'm not 

What can I say to him when I see him ?? , i didn't  leave home till 45 we were all  so close , I love my dad so much

Thank you for reading this I know I'm not alone but I feel so sad

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    Hi there ...

    So so sorry your going through this heartbraking time... it's never easy, no mater what their age ... but you know l lost my mum suddenly from a heart attack and had no chance to even say those things like I was so proud to be her daughter.... or hold her one more time ...

    You still can tell your dad all that's in your heart ... you can hold his hand ... listen to what he needs to say too ... l would give anything, even for one hour with my mum ... 

    Don't try to be strong ... men used to think they had to be brave ... now they don't ... men hurt as much as us women do ... even more when they try to hold it all in ... you know it's o.k to share tears with your dad and sisters ... your not super man, just a man who's heart is braking....

    If you can share all those feelings, you will all walk this last path with your dad ... your probly all scared .. it's o.k to say those words ... holding feelings in, builds inside till it overwhelmes you ... just take one step, at a time ... don't look ahead .. live in the now .. keep talking to him .. hearing stays even when other senses go ... hold his hand ... that's what I'd want if this cancer takes me ... my son's hand to hold ...

    Sending you a vertual hug....  Chrissie xx

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    Hi there ...

    So so sorry your going through this heartbraking time... it's never easy, no mater what their age ... but you know l lost my mum suddenly from a heart attack and had no chance to even say those things like I was so proud to be her daughter.... or hold her one more time ...

    You still can tell your dad all that's in your heart ... you can hold his hand ... listen to what he needs to say too ... l would give anything, even for one hour with my mum ... 

    Don't try to be strong ... men used to think they had to be brave ... now they don't ... men hurt as much as us women do ... even more when they try to hold it all in ... you know it's o.k to share tears with your dad and sisters ... your not super man, just a man who's heart is braking....

    If you can share all those feelings, you will all walk this last path with your dad ... your probly all scared .. it's o.k to say those words ... holding feelings in, builds inside till it overwhelmes you ... just take one step, at a time ... don't look ahead .. live in the now .. keep talking to him .. hearing stays even when other senses go ... hold his hand ... that's what I'd want if this cancer takes me ... my son's hand to hold ...

    Sending you a vertual hug....  Chrissie xx

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