Losing my dad

My dad had a cold at the start of March and went to the doctors he sent him home with antibiotics but it got worse he ended up in a&e they drained 3 liters of fluid off his lungs 

They tested the fluid and found cancer cells ,after a ct scan they found it  has spread through out his body and have given him 3-6 months 

My dad was genrally of good health he never complained about  being sick . My heart is breaking I feel so useless although I'm a 48 year old Male and my dad is 74 I don't know how to cope I've  never lost any one close 

I'm  not sure I want to see him slowly die , I feel I have to be the strong one because in the only son with 2 sisters , but I'm not 

What can I say to him when I see him ?? , i didn't  leave home till 45 we were all  so close , I love my dad so much

Thank you for reading this I know I'm not alone but I feel so sad

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  • Hi

    So sad to hear about your Dad, I was in the same situation 22years ago. My Dad passed away after 8 weeks of being diagnosed with Bowel/Liver cancer. Its going to be a very difficult time for you but please try and be open and talk to your Dad, tell him your there for him. I was too afraid at the time to say things to him incase I upset him but I wish I had told him how much I cared for him and gave him the chance to talk to me about his fears/pain. Cry together , it will help you and your Dad. Take each day at a time, you will be strong, you somehow find that inner strength.

     

    Thinking about you

  • My dad wont let me talk to his doctors he keeps everything from us , just trying to  protect us 

    There sending him home next week to my mum who has just finished chemo herself she says she can cope , but just wants him home 

    He told us before  that the doctors said he can have treatment when hes off oxygen  but are sending him home on oxygen

    Im not one to give up but I think there sending home to die

     

  • MY DAD PASSED AWAY 10:30 AM WENDSDAY MORNING  WHILE I WAS AT WORK 

    I DONT THINK HE SUFFERED AS MY MUM HAD GONE FOR A WASH AFTER GETTING MY DAD READY , SHE DIDN'T HEAR ANYTHING SHE CAME BACK AND HE HAD GONE

    ITS  MY BIRTHDAY NEXT FRIDAY I CANT BELIVE HE WONT BE THERE

     

     

     

     

     

  • I just read your post as I was going to bed and I just wanted to send your hug. My mum was diagnosed with lung cancer yesterday and everything you described I’m going through. I’m so sorry for your loss. Firsts of everything will be so difficult but you have your mum so hold each other tight xxx

  • sorry to hear of your loss , remember the good and carry on for everyone who need you to be strong i hope and wish good for you in the future although it will not seem like it , things will hopefully improve for you over time.

     

    Ed

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