I'm so sorry to hear about your husband, mine is fighting cancer so I know what you have been through.   It is such early days since his death and it is too soon to think you can cope.  Everything you had and expected for your future is gone and grief consumes everything.  I have another friend on this forum whose husband died a couple of months ago, people expect her to be getting over it, she says she has lost her soul mate.   No one understands your grief so take it a day at a time.  Contact bereavement counselling when you feel up to it.  Speak to your GP and see if he can suggest something to help you at the moment.   Let people help you when they offer and talk frankly to your family, don't try and do it all on your own.  I'm sure others will contact you, pick the advice that suits your situation.  Thinking of you all.  Carol 

Hi i lost my wife in april and i thought i was going mad so went to drs and he was great i can only spk for myself he gave me a very low dose of diazapam and its got me over the initial shock it dosnt take the pain away but the anxiaty that goes with it . but i can say you dont have to go through this alone there is help out there you just need to say i need help i dont know your situation but if you ring your local hospice they have bereavment councilers that have lots of experience in grief and can at least give you advice on how to help everyones grief is different but doesnt matter how tough or strong you are we all need help and to talk about it. I didnt beleive it but going for a walk in the park or just being near people realy helps .i do wish you well .p

Hi Blubber

I lost my husband 12 April who was 53 we were together 29 years and all I can say is it's bloody hard and all you is  cry and shout and Wale, I have done that for 7 weeks , I miss him every day , but I am back at work keeping busy as before all I was doing was thinking and crying all day at least if I am in work , I just do it at night , but not so much, I have to keep busy so I have joined the gym so i am not home every night feeling sorry for myself, you need to occupy yourself , I know it's hard but it helps in baby steps of some sort of normality , I hope that helps , take care , Kirsty x