I am also Sussex...Quite upsetting not being able to do anything! :/ Do you think the moderators would know what to do?...............Jes has been on daily and said she would keep in touch then nothing after that desperate post last night! :(

Sorry to have worried you all ... just in so much pain I really can't handle it 

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Thankyou so much.....l've just read it. Sending all my love to you all. X

In my case it's the lack of sleep that contributes to the "down" feelings .... last night I was awake from 1 - 4 and then have to be up for work at 6 .... I'm due to see the doctor on Saturday and this time I am going to beg for some sleeping pills - the last time she fobbed me off with a bottle of Calms .... 

Sleeping pills can be a quick fix but won't solve the problem long term....and you don't want to be stuck relying on them forever. Relaxation techniques, herbal preparations and teas and a plan for what to do with yourself if you do wake up (such as mental puzzles...reading......radio.....NOT anything with a screen!) can all be very helpful in a much healthier way! Hope you find something that helps.x

I set myself the task of trying to recite all of Shakespeare's plays and sonnets the other night .... that certainly took some thinking ... heavens I didn't realise he'd done so much.  I'm not a fan of teas and relaxation techniques ... I tried them a few years ago ..... I need something something punchier ... with the lighter evenings I may take up jogging (yuck) ... something has to work as I am working a 9 hour day at the mmoment on about 3 hours sleep a night ... 

That's fair enough....You have to be receptive for them to work. Good luck with the jogging! :)

Still so so crappie. ... only having few hours sleep last week or so I got the psychiatrist appointment(finally after waiting 9 weeks )   it's in 2 weeks time ..... my doctor has offered depression pills again or sleeping pills but I really can't take them ... the herbal pills I had quest life make my anxiety worse so gonna try that St John's wart as few people have said it now .... just struggling so bad .... crying doesn't stop .... but I am trying xx 

Hi Jes.....Well it's worth trying but unfortunately you are just gonna have to ride it out I think. These early days are just about trying to look after yourself as best you can and trying to manage your grief to an acceptable level so as to get through each day. St Johns wort can maybe help you relax a little but is more beneficial for people coping with general depression.....Grief is more than a chemical imbalance. Have you looked into doing some voluntary/charity help somewhere? Sometimes taking your mind off your own problems and helping others with theirs can help. I am a volunteer for The Cinnamon trust and am signed up to help people who are elderly, housebound or terminally ill look after their pets. So far I have only walked 2 standard poodles for an elderly lady near me and it mostly entails dog walking ---gets you out in the fresh air with a purpose ----but sometimes it could be mucking out various animals/birds. Look them up if you are interested....you basically tell them what you are able to do then they call if they need you....you can decide to do as much or as little as you can cope with. (you have to fill a form and have referees/references) Anyway just one idea as I know there are many charities and good causes crying out for volunteers. Hope you get through today a bit better than yesterday. C.xx 

Hi Jesxx,

Feel crap too  , Mothers day tomorrow, Noone's asked me to go around anywhere. Taking some flowers , then put some on  for my gran, for mum. Then good cry.Miss her talking,

Trouble the first months the pains so intense. You dont feel like doing much, you just keep looking to find way back the life you had...  Then sreaming inside.... holding on is the key.... what would they say if you didn't?..... is what i'm thinking.... plus this trip in life is so sh..!!

Yeah i have looked into doing something  even voluntary  work but found it a struggle to even get there and speak with the woman who owns the shop. .. ended up breaking down for hours. .. hard to wake up and be OK. . And sleep isnot happening much but I'm trying still ...

Yeah i have looked into doing something  even voluntary  work but found it a struggle to even get there and speak with the woman who owns the shop. .. ended up breaking down for hours. .. hard to wake up and be OK. . And sleep isnot happening much but I'm trying still ...