My husband passed June fourth. And I have been trying to cope. Ive been trying to keep busy, but at every turn come these feelings of guilt, loss, yearning ,and this hollow feeling in my stomach doesnt go away. I know its only been to weeks.
hi you must be devastated two of my friends have lost there husbands and i no they are in pain but they are back at work and hiding the grief one of them looks ill i can see in her eyes the torment but it is a very private thing to some people. i work in a place where i look after dying people but it is so different when it is your own... i recentley lost my mum and just cannot belive it my heart hurts so much my dad is still here and they were inseperable he is really struggling i am drinking more and more to cope just want her back.
hi you must be devastated two of my friends have lost there husbands and i no they are in pain but they are back at work and hiding the grief one of them looks ill i can see in her eyes the torment but it is a very private thing to some people. i work in a place where i look after dying people but it is so different when it is your own... i recentley lost my mum and just cannot belive it my heart hurts so much my dad is still here and they were inseperable he is really struggling i am drinking more and more to cope just want her back.
Iam sorry to hear that you are also hurting so. My daughter just gave me a book "The Courage to Grieve" by Judy Tatelbaum. I am going to read it hopefully it will help.
Hi Angela, Things do get better, one day at a time. They say time is a great healer.... I don't know but every day I get stronger. If someone had told me 7.5 months ago how much better I am at handling things now I would have said they were bonkers. But it is true.... I think there are a lot of stages I know I have gone through but am now in a "good" place. Take care Kathy x
Hi I lost my mum 15 month ago it seems like yesterday it's still very raw and hurts like mad I never actually thought you could have a broken Hart but boy I know now I wish it would start to mend I feel ill and depressed all the time I can't go out I have panic attacks and feel so lonely without my mum she was my best friend.. when will it start to get better I wonder.?.
I do not think there is a definite length ot time for the grieving process as it depends on so many different aspects of our lives. I was lucky to have family support and a very concerned GP who has kept an eye on me and I know my husband tried to prepare me in the time he had the cancer so perhaps this has helped a little. I am comforted by the knowledge that I had many happy years of being with him and draw on the memories in my heart when I have a ;down' day. Some people find counselling a real help and it may be worth considering as it could help you cope a little better with your loss and begin the tiny steps of moving forward. I am not sure how old you may be but it would be good to chat to your GP and explain your anxieties as they may be able to offer help in the short term. We never forget those we have lost as we carry them in our hearts. Sending a virtual hug at this sad time for you.Jules
