hi you must be devastated two of my friends have lost there husbands and i no they are in pain but they are back at work and hiding the grief  one of them looks ill i can see in her eyes the torment but it is a very private thing to some people. i work in a place where i look after dying people but it is so different when it is your own... i recentley lost my mum and just cannot belive it   my heart hurts so much my dad is still here and they were inseperable  he is really struggling i am drinking more and more to cope just want her back.

Hi I lost my mum 15 month ago it seems like yesterday it's still very raw and hurts like mad I never actually thought  you could have a broken Hart but boy I know now I wish it would start to mend I feel ill and depressed  all the time I can't go out I have panic attacks and feel so lonely without my mum she was my best friend.. when will it start to get better I wonder.?.

Hi busylizy

I do not think there is a definite length ot time for the grieving process as it depends on so many different aspects of our lives. I was lucky to have family support and a very concerned GP who has kept an eye on me and I know my husband tried to prepare me in the time he had the cancer so perhaps this has helped a little.  I am comforted by the knowledge that I had many happy years of being with him and draw on the memories in my heart when I have a ;down' day. Some people find counselling a real help and it may be worth considering as it could help  you cope a little better with your loss and begin the tiny steps of moving forward. I am not sure how old you may be but it would be good to chat to your GP and explain your anxieties as they may be able to offer help in the short term.  We never forget those we have lost as we carry them in our hearts. Sending a virtual hug at this sad time for you.Jules

Hi busylizy

I do not think there is a definite length ot time for the grieving process as it depends on so many different aspects of our lives. I was lucky to have family support and a very concerned GP who has kept an eye on me and I know my husband tried to prepare me in the time he had the cancer so perhaps this has helped a little.  I am comforted by the knowledge that I had many happy years of being with him and draw on the memories in my heart when I have a ;down' day. Some people find counselling a real help and it may be worth considering as it could help  you cope a little better with your loss and begin the tiny steps of moving forward. I am not sure how old you may be but it would be good to chat to your GP and explain your anxieties as they may be able to offer help in the short term.  We never forget those we have lost as we carry them in our hearts. Sending a virtual hug at this sad time for you.Jules