Dealing with a loss of a loved one

Hello All.

We found out in December that our nan had terminal cancer in her liver and goulbladder. We were told we had a few months with her, but we were then told before Christmas that it was a number of weeks. The news first hadn't sunk in, but the realisation soon hit when we were told we didn't have as long as we were hoping for.

Our nan sadly passed away on the 8th January 2015. I have struggled with our loss and it hurt even more when I was at work and didn't have any support from my manager and was told that I couldn't have the time off I needed for the funeral. I have since been signed off work for a number of weeks.

It's difficult knowing that I can't hold her hand, we will no longer be playing the card games I loved, or will watch the tv programmes we loved together. And not forgetting the cooking we did together, I miss the fun we would have in the kitchen making up my favourite dishes. I miss her every day and love her with all my heart. I did have beautiful 26 years with her and coming to terms with the loss has been difficult, but I have had great support from friends and family and I am returning to work this week.

Thank you all for listening. It's nice to know there is a site for these discussions and support.

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  • Hello Navitha

    Just wanted to add my welcome to the forum.  It is awfully hard to come to terms with the loss of our loved ones but this is a lovely supportive site and its a good place to share your feelings.  It sounds as if you made the very best of the 26 years spent enjoying things with your Nan and no one can take those memories away. I am really saddened that you had such an unfeeling manager and thus were denied the chance to attend your nan's funeral but hope the time off has helped with your reflections.  Come and chat anytime as there are plenty of kind and thoughtful people 'reading' and I hope you will find it helpful.

    All the very best with your return to work.Jules54

     

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  • Hello Navitha

    Just wanted to add my welcome to the forum.  It is awfully hard to come to terms with the loss of our loved ones but this is a lovely supportive site and its a good place to share your feelings.  It sounds as if you made the very best of the 26 years spent enjoying things with your Nan and no one can take those memories away. I am really saddened that you had such an unfeeling manager and thus were denied the chance to attend your nan's funeral but hope the time off has helped with your reflections.  Come and chat anytime as there are plenty of kind and thoughtful people 'reading' and I hope you will find it helpful.

    All the very best with your return to work.Jules54

     

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