Dealing with a loss of a loved one

Hello All.

We found out in December that our nan had terminal cancer in her liver and goulbladder. We were told we had a few months with her, but we were then told before Christmas that it was a number of weeks. The news first hadn't sunk in, but the realisation soon hit when we were told we didn't have as long as we were hoping for.

Our nan sadly passed away on the 8th January 2015. I have struggled with our loss and it hurt even more when I was at work and didn't have any support from my manager and was told that I couldn't have the time off I needed for the funeral. I have since been signed off work for a number of weeks.

It's difficult knowing that I can't hold her hand, we will no longer be playing the card games I loved, or will watch the tv programmes we loved together. And not forgetting the cooking we did together, I miss the fun we would have in the kitchen making up my favourite dishes. I miss her every day and love her with all my heart. I did have beautiful 26 years with her and coming to terms with the loss has been difficult, but I have had great support from friends and family and I am returning to work this week.

Thank you all for listening. It's nice to know there is a site for these discussions and support.

Parents
  • Our thoughts are with you Navitha at this sad time. Thank you for sharing it with you = at least Nan is not suffering now and it at peace. My wife had a really close and fun relationship with her mum = they would phone each other up all the time and chat and have fun = go shopping for hours together. All that ended when her mum suddenly got cancer and died last year. So, I have a tiny insight into what you must be missing. My wife cries every day and cna get very low.

    Let me end as I start = our thoughts are with you and here is a hug for you

    Steven xx

    The group here are very nice and very supporting and understanding = I am glad you found it

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  • Our thoughts are with you Navitha at this sad time. Thank you for sharing it with you = at least Nan is not suffering now and it at peace. My wife had a really close and fun relationship with her mum = they would phone each other up all the time and chat and have fun = go shopping for hours together. All that ended when her mum suddenly got cancer and died last year. So, I have a tiny insight into what you must be missing. My wife cries every day and cna get very low.

    Let me end as I start = our thoughts are with you and here is a hug for you

    Steven xx

    The group here are very nice and very supporting and understanding = I am glad you found it

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