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Hi There, this is my first time on the chat line, just want to here from anyone in my position. My darling wife Dawn sadly passed away 19 June 2012, and it is still so very hard to understand or believe why, I am going round in circles, not wanting to go out but feeling upset if people don't ask me out (brothers and sisters), but then feel guilty when i do out, upset because things just carrying on the same way, I try to keep myself busy, walk our dog for hours, have a part time job, volunteer for our local hospice and ssafa, but the evenings a nightmare, how are you all coping.

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    Hello Paul Im sorry to hear you have lost your wife ,as Kathy has already said a few people on this forum have lost the love of their lives I lost my hubby in Feb 2013 and still feel lost without him ,but initial sting of his passing has left me now and I spend time walking my dog meeting people who are also doggy walking chatting and spending lots of time with family and grandchildren , gardening I planted a lovely yellow rose in our garden in Tonys memory I miss him terribly but memories I tresure  and life must go on I am sure you will learn to cope without so much pain soon..Take care Sueanne ...

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    Hello Paul Im sorry to hear you have lost your wife ,as Kathy has already said a few people on this forum have lost the love of their lives I lost my hubby in Feb 2013 and still feel lost without him ,but initial sting of his passing has left me now and I spend time walking my dog meeting people who are also doggy walking chatting and spending lots of time with family and grandchildren , gardening I planted a lovely yellow rose in our garden in Tonys memory I miss him terribly but memories I tresure  and life must go on I am sure you will learn to cope without so much pain soon..Take care Sueanne ...

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    Hi there Sueanne, thank you for you for your reply and I am truly sorry for your loss, an amazing rose, sure Tony would love it, Dawn has a garden full of roses, the yellow rose always looks so bright and seems to stand out above the others, I'm similar to yourself walking the dog, but don't chat to people too much. We have three sons, but I have fallen out with the eldest two, as the eldest couldn't be bothered to come to see his mother even when she was given only weeks to live, and the second eldest because he stated Dawn didn't want him there, hand on heart, Dawn never said anything of the kind, I told the eldest to stay away when Dawn was finally given hours to live, complicated isn't it, but I do look after the youngest sons boys, it's a big help, but still feel guilty, because I am have their pleasure and Dawns missing out. Hope I'm not putting people off, it is complicated, it's painfull but you are the people that can understand. Kind regards Paul
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    Hell Paul Im sorry there are  complications with the children it dosnt make things easy for you does it I hope things get sorted out soon , you need your family around you such a big support for each other ..come and chat anytime you need, there are lovely friendly supportive people who are only to willing to help on this forum ,they have been a godsend to me through many dark days ..Take care Sueanne...

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    Hi there Sueanne, thank you once again for your swift response, the situation with the two eldest is a nightmare, but our youngest son is very caring and responsive so it helps, and you are absolutely right, it sounds as there are so many wonderful people on this forum it can only help me get through this rough time. So please forgive me if I keep going on and on about Dawn, but because you all have been through a similar experience, then your thoughts on the way ahead are welcome and will be respected. I must learn to cope, so I can make progress, and with all of your help I'm just hoping I will cope one day. Thank you, Kind regards Paul

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