My lovely dad passed away 5 days ago from horrible mesothelioma. It's a pain I've never felt before and has me feeling absolutely devastated. Cancer took everything from my dad and us. He lost that fun sense of humor. He couldn't go to the bathroom without my mum's assistance. He was miserable. Once he passed I try to hold onto the fact he isn't suffering anymore, but I can't stand the thought of him gone. Even though I'm married and have children, and still have my mum, I feel lost and lonely. Life feels as if it now has a huge hole in it and I feel it's changed me forever. I'm sorry you're going though this. It's the hardest thing you'll ever go through and I give you and your family my best wishes. I'm sorry I don't have more uplifting advice, but I'm suffering now and hope eventually I'll be at peace with things. God bless.

Thank you for your well wishes. I am sorry to hear that and I hope things get easier over time. The nature of the illness is so evil. It takes everything and it can do so, so quickly. I think that's what hurts on top of everything... The shock of it all happening so fast. It's always those that don't deserve it that have to endure these things. From reading on here I see people recommend Cruse. I'm going to try their live chat option for some advice from grieving counsellors. Here's a link in case it's something you'd like to try: https://www.cruse.org.uk/

Thank you for the link. I'll be sharing this with others in my family. You take care of yourself and spend as much time with your dear dad as possible. You'll both cherish every minute. ️

Hi Xureli,

Reading your message hurts my heart, as my family and I are unfortunately living the same situation as you. I am also in my twenties. It is so hard feeling so sad all the time. I find it so painful to watch my dad literally fading away, as you said losing both appearance and personality. 

Hopefully things will get easier for our families in time, and all we can do at the moment is be there for our dads. 

I was sorry to hear your father is so ill and that it is unlikely he can come with you abroad this summer. Cancer can be very brutal. It killed a friend of mine and I won't get over it. All I could do was raise money for research into the kind of cancer she had (ovarian) so that in future perhaps it is more treatable.

My father lived to 95 and I can sadly tell you there's never a good time for your father to die. I found it horrible seeing him in hospital and I would love to be able to ring him and visit him. 

He had a good life, that's what I celebrate now, not the way he died after a long time in hospital. He loved me and I loved him. That's what I now am comforted by. He died in 2014 on 16th September. I still remember the date. Of course. Rest in peace. 

I am thinking of you in your grief. 

AuntieJ

I am sorry you are going through this I lost my Dad a month ago and I am told it gets easier in time but I am not there yet.

Spend as much time with your Dad as you can, tell him you love him and how much he has taught you. Play his favourite music and give him his favourite foods if he can eat. I wish I'd spent more time talking to my Dad but I was exhausted in the midst of caring and I couldn't think straight so advice you to learn from my experience. Sending love to you.

Dad passed away, very, very peacefully this month.

The sadness really does come in waves. It still does not feel real and I feel as if it never will. You can try to prepare yourself for the pain of losing your father but it is not possible in whole. The pain is so deep. 

I will be okay. We all will. Just wish I could give him one last cuddle. :sad: