Losing my Partner

Hello, I lost my Kay to Cancer 2 years ago, leaving me with our child Ada at just 8 months old. I'm still finding it so hard to deal with the upset and random tears and anger for why she's gone. I have no family myself and only a select few people I feel able to talk about it to hense why I've posted in here. 

I know nothing can take what's happened away, but 2 years down the line I feel I'm no closer to dealing with my personal pain and public upsets and feel I have nobody really to talk to about it because unlestyou e seen it and been through it, it just doesn't ever feel it's truly understood. I'm haunted by the visions or her leaving me and our baby. I'm haunted that much I can even bring myself to go to her grave. 

 

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  • I know as a society we state "things get easier", but the truth is until you're in that position, loss is a very individual thing. More so the loss of a kid or partner.

    I lost someone close to me years and years ago, and it has never gotten easier. The loss still plays on my mind the same way it did 5 mins after the person passing. You learn to douse those emotions and lock them away for longer periods of time, but they resurface.

    I think the point I'm trying to make, don't beat yourself up just because others tell you things get easier. You feel how you feel.

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  • I know as a society we state "things get easier", but the truth is until you're in that position, loss is a very individual thing. More so the loss of a kid or partner.

    I lost someone close to me years and years ago, and it has never gotten easier. The loss still plays on my mind the same way it did 5 mins after the person passing. You learn to douse those emotions and lock them away for longer periods of time, but they resurface.

    I think the point I'm trying to make, don't beat yourself up just because others tell you things get easier. You feel how you feel.

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