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Not feeling like I should - My dad passed away yesterday

MissA87
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My dad lost his long fight with cancer yesterday. Even though the fight was long the end was quick he spent Sunday at a wedding and gone on Monday. I was lucky enough to have been there by chance, I even washed and dressed his body for the undertakers. I of course cried, but I feel like I should be worse than I am, I thought I wouldn't be able to drag myself out of bed today but I got up and cleaned and sorted my kids and went about my normal routine. My family have broken down and had panic attacks and I feel like I should have too. My dad was young, he was my best friend, we was so close. I feel unbelievable guilt for feeling like I should be crying all day especially where it's so new. Could I be in shock? I just feel weird instead 

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  • Hello MissA87

    I'm so sorry that you lost your much-loved Dad earlier this week. Undoubtedly this will be a difficult time for the whole family however there are no hard and fast rules about how each person should grieve. 

    Grief is a natural process; while it can feel overwhelming, not everyone experiences grief in the same way. Feeling numb is very common in the early days following a bereavement. Please don't put pressure on yourself to feel or behave in a certain way. Instead, be kind to yourself and take each day as it comes. I suspect that there will be plenty of tears in the coming weeks and months. 

    If you feel at any point you want to talk to someone about how you're feeling then do get in touch with Cruse, a charity that's able to offer bereavement support. 

    On behalf of the whole Cancer Chat team, please accept our condolences and know that our thoughts are with you all. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator 

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  • Hello MissA87

    I'm so sorry that you lost your much-loved Dad earlier this week. Undoubtedly this will be a difficult time for the whole family however there are no hard and fast rules about how each person should grieve. 

    Grief is a natural process; while it can feel overwhelming, not everyone experiences grief in the same way. Feeling numb is very common in the early days following a bereavement. Please don't put pressure on yourself to feel or behave in a certain way. Instead, be kind to yourself and take each day as it comes. I suspect that there will be plenty of tears in the coming weeks and months. 

    If you feel at any point you want to talk to someone about how you're feeling then do get in touch with Cruse, a charity that's able to offer bereavement support. 

    On behalf of the whole Cancer Chat team, please accept our condolences and know that our thoughts are with you all. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator 

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