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My dad has just passed

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Hi everyone...  I have just lost my dad to AML,  after a 4 year battle,  after a stem. Cell transplant and further chemo for two years,  I was robbed by covid of 2 years of him as with his reduced immune system I couldn't go near him,  he also lost his mum and my grandma from covid,  he didn't even get to go to his own mother funeral... He passed at hospital holding my hand...his last words were.. I'm sorry to have let you down son. 

He was only 65 and was diagnosed 2 months after his 60th birthday just after retiring, a retirement he never got to see. 

 

I am struggling massively to cope with his death,  he was very fit,  didn't smoke or drink ate healthily.. Yet this disease took him away from us,  and his family... I have many questions,  none of which I have answers to

Why did this happen to him,  why did he get it,  why didn't the treatment fix him. I sure everyone here asks the same thing... My daughter was born on his 1st day of chemo and he never got to have a relationship or spend time with her... I feel robbed,  as he did...

Any answers fir anything would be possibly helpful towards me coping with this....

Kind regards

 

Tony

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    I'm so sorry for your loss. You were close to your dad so you will never "get over it" but cope a bit better each day.

    I lost my dad 25 years ago and there isn't a day goes past when I don't think of him. I do remember the raw days and months afterwards when I couldn't think of anything else. 

    I have had 2 different cancers in the last 2 years so I greatly feel that cancer sucks. I also lost an old friend (who was a wonderful person and led a healthy life)  to it so it definitely ISN'T fair! She was treated at one of the very best hospitals and had trials from the US and here, but she still couldn't be saved. 

    I know it will be difficult - and for a while you will be numb -  but he's still with you in the things he used to say to you - and in a BIG way with your daughter. Remember she has 1/4 of his genes so he lives on in her. 

    I send you my very best wishes and deepest sympathy.

    Susan

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    I'm so sorry for your loss. You were close to your dad so you will never "get over it" but cope a bit better each day.

    I lost my dad 25 years ago and there isn't a day goes past when I don't think of him. I do remember the raw days and months afterwards when I couldn't think of anything else. 

    I have had 2 different cancers in the last 2 years so I greatly feel that cancer sucks. I also lost an old friend (who was a wonderful person and led a healthy life)  to it so it definitely ISN'T fair! She was treated at one of the very best hospitals and had trials from the US and here, but she still couldn't be saved. 

    I know it will be difficult - and for a while you will be numb -  but he's still with you in the things he used to say to you - and in a BIG way with your daughter. Remember she has 1/4 of his genes so he lives on in her. 

    I send you my very best wishes and deepest sympathy.

    Susan

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