Hi Lynne.F,

We had a lovely green woodpecker that visited our garden quite a few times and this morning I found it , unfortunately, it had died, not sure how. it reminded me of when my mum rescued a little baby bird and tried to feed it some worms but sadly it didn't survive.My mum was the kindest person you could ever meet.

My beautiful mum died in September 2018 and like you I still struggle with the loss, so I understand some of how you are feeling, it's horrible isn't it. Someone asked about my mum the other day and I had to say she had passed away but couldn't speak after that; the truth is I can rarely speak about my mum without crying. It's still painful, I guess the only thing I can say is the raw grief does subside but there is no time limit, whatever and however you feel is normal. I hope like me there are instances and people/ family in your life that bring you joy and laughter but for me, there will always be a part of me, a sadness that won't go and I have to accept that. I can say for sure that you're not letting your dad down, it's brave to come onto this forum and talk about your feelings and you help others, like me to not feel abnormal in how I feel, so thank you.

Selling your dads car must have been really heart wrenching, as you say, it was part of him but you're part of him, a lady on this forum says that we carry our loved ones in our hearts, that will never change.

I chat to my mum's photo and somehow I know she hears me and I get a good idea of what she might be saying back, especially if it's about my cooking and not quite sticking to her recipes!

If it's not too personal to say, you'll always miss your dad and I'll always miss mum, I'm trying to live a life that my mum would want for me and hope that she's looking down on me, helping me to do that.

It's hard Lynne, I know, don't think about the time, just a day at a time or however you feel, it's ok. Sending you warm wishes x

Hi Lynne.F,

We had a lovely green woodpecker that visited our garden quite a few times and this morning I found it , unfortunately, it had died, not sure how. it reminded me of when my mum rescued a little baby bird and tried to feed it some worms but sadly it didn't survive.My mum was the kindest person you could ever meet.

My beautiful mum died in September 2018 and like you I still struggle with the loss, so I understand some of how you are feeling, it's horrible isn't it. Someone asked about my mum the other day and I had to say she had passed away but couldn't speak after that; the truth is I can rarely speak about my mum without crying. It's still painful, I guess the only thing I can say is the raw grief does subside but there is no time limit, whatever and however you feel is normal. I hope like me there are instances and people/ family in your life that bring you joy and laughter but for me, there will always be a part of me, a sadness that won't go and I have to accept that. I can say for sure that you're not letting your dad down, it's brave to come onto this forum and talk about your feelings and you help others, like me to not feel abnormal in how I feel, so thank you.

Selling your dads car must have been really heart wrenching, as you say, it was part of him but you're part of him, a lady on this forum says that we carry our loved ones in our hearts, that will never change.

I chat to my mum's photo and somehow I know she hears me and I get a good idea of what she might be saying back, especially if it's about my cooking and not quite sticking to her recipes!

If it's not too personal to say, you'll always miss your dad and I'll always miss mum, I'm trying to live a life that my mum would want for me and hope that she's looking down on me, helping me to do that.

It's hard Lynne, I know, don't think about the time, just a day at a time or however you feel, it's ok. Sending you warm wishes x